hello
My close pal has discovered her husband has had a 6 month affair, seems he was planning on leaving her and her two very young children for this woman (who has threatened to top herself if he doesn't). The husband moved out of the family home to live in a nearby house, not with other woman. My pal and he, are going to relate but he seems reluctant to make a decision to which one he wants, and has now been stringing her along for a couple of months. She seems reluctant to make the decision to boot him out of her life (must be hard, I am sympathetic).
She does not have access to internet at mo, and my question is what/how do divorces end up these days? My dad had affairs left right and centre when I was young, and as a result lost everything to his last wife who he did have 2 children with. My pal is scared of him going as she has not worked for years, and never had much of a career to start with as he wanted her to be a proper wife, and stay at home to look after him and the kids (shame on the rest of us!). She has no savings, she is on the mortgage, but is terrified she will end up scrabbling around without a bean. I have advised her to seek proper advice, but at this stage it seems to make it too real I think. What can she expect (I guess everyone is different, but in general). He works full time, well, did until he got signed off for depression - which is apparently what caused the affair