Turning Tavern- Your updates........

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Hi all,

Was just wondering how all the turning tavern ladies are getting on.

I was directed to the original thread about a year a go because I was really struggling with my sexuality and since then, my life has completely transformed.

I spoke to some amazing women and I heard some very heart warming, sometimes heart breaking, stories.

It's been a bumpy road since then, but I'm now happier than ever. To cut a long story short, I left my ex dp and am now in a relationship with the most incredible woman. For the first time, I feel like me. I don't see myself as gay, but the connection I have with my gf, is like nothing I've ever experienced before.

Unfortunately, we do face a fair amount of prejudice, but overall, it's most definitely worth it. Shame though, that in this day and age, we still have to deal with homophobic attitudes.

Would love to hear back from all the TT women to see what developments, if any, have taken place. Whether you decided to act on your feelings, or decided not to, I hope you're all doing well.

Oreo x

I joined right at the end. I found myself single and had a chance to meet up with a woman I know who was in my position (always fantasised, never acted on) and well, I got to act on my feelings. It was great but we are both dabbling with online dating with men, but open to it happening again but friends anyhow. It's weird how we are just ok with that but nothing is weird between us. We message each other most days (we live quite a way apart).

I've had a lot going on what with getting out of an EA relationship. I'm glad I acted on it as I was curious, and with the right person, I'd go for it. I still do like men though so I'm officially a greedy goat and I'm very comfortable with that.

Butterfly, actually I was only interested in just acting out my fantasy, as I too, was very curious. I always just assumed it would be purely sexual, but to my surprise, I fell head of heels in love. I honestly would never have thought this would/could happen. Before meeting my gf, the idea of being in a relationship with a woman, actually filled me with dread! Too many hormones! However, pretty much after the first meeting, I was hooked and it just felt right.

I still like men, but like I said, I've never experienced a connection like this before. It's very special.

Did you act out your fantasises with a friend you knew before?

Hmm well, it's complicated and funny. My ex introduced us (she's his ex!) online because he was very supportive of this fantasy of mine and knew she was the same and that we'd probably get on. We have been chatting for a while but hadn't gotten round to meeting up. Ex and I broke up (he was cheating on me). He texted her asking to meet up anyway. She ignored him and texted me. We kept messaging and she asked me to meet up with her! Now we both ignore him.

Yeah, that it is pretty complicated!

It's weird actually, cos originally I assumed that I would end up acting out my fantasy with kind of a mutual friend (more of an acquaintance really) I knew she fancied me, even though she was married and I thought she was attractive. Ex was very much up for this idea, but I wasn't interested in a threesome, which he seemed to be ok with. He was actually quite supportive and I think he just thought I'd get it out of my system.

Anyway, me and ex dp really weren't getting on even though we still love each other, we've never been right for one another really. I started chatting to another woman who shared my feelings and dilemma's and we met up. Ex knew about it as I didn't want to lie or it feel like an affair, even though, by this time, our relationship was as good as over. However, feelings grew very quickly and so it was obviously time to end things with him officially.

I still see this woman in one of my local pubs and I still thinks she's hot, but I hate thinking that I could have had some fun with her and then not met my gf. Actually, gf has banned us going in this pub now, cos she's seen how she looks at me It's probably fair enough, I'd do the same I think.

Honestly though, I really am so grateful to all the woman on here who helped me figure out what it was that I wanted.

I'm really glad you are happy. Love this nest of vipers I does!

Hi
Just a quick update as I am on my phone. I used to be Crushinghard. Was married with a child but have now left that home and am living with my girlfriend of 7 months, who I happened to meet on the original TT threads! I'll leave her to out herself if she wishes to. I was so grateful for the support if those threads. Unfortunately my relationships in my wider family are fairly damaged now as they are not keen on my 'decisions'. But I've never been happier.
I hope to marry my Gf once it's legal, perhaps it will be one of the first MN weddings?

Hi Myelin, I remember you!

I remember you saying you were having trouble with your family accepting your new relationship. I'm sorry to hear that that is still the case.

I didn't meet my gf on the TT threads, but I did meet her through a website which another mumsnetter on the thread had put me in touch with. I already said thank you to her personally and I hope she knows who she is

Unfortunately you do have to accept that things will be tougher in some ways, but like you, I've never been happier and I too plan to marry my gf one day. She popped the question recently and whereas we haven't announced it to family and friends yet, we're very happy to know that one day, we'll be able to completely 100% commit to one another. Not that we're not already obviously, but I guess it just emphasises that we are. It's funny, because I was never bothered about getting married before. I assumed it was just because I saw it as a piece of paper and a waste of money. I see things so differently now.

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Anyone?

Ooops, hello I am Myelin's GF and one of the original TT members. Can't remember if I was using this name or another one when I was posting on there, but anyway, thought I'd say hi.
waves to everyone and to GF