whoops! damn friends reunited

[nailpolish]

an ex bf/brilliant old mate of mine has been in touch via friends re.

actually this was ages ago (about 3 years) and we have chatted occasionally via msn

he blurted out to me recently that his wife has been shagging his friend and he also found out she has had a month long affair with a married father

i feel so sorry for him, i would love to see him but im scared

argh

dh would kill me if he even knew i chatted to ex bf, he doesnt like him

Can I just say I think this would be A Bad Idea?

yes i know it would

just wanted to tell someone

i wanted to marry him at the time

he knows this

boy he regrets it now

this is thin ice and you have hot feet

Glad you're not offended at my honesty.
I'm sure he regrets it,tell me you don't though eh?

he wanted to 'shag around a bit more'

so i moved away

his loss

but should i stop chatting to him on msn?

we all know about thin ice but Carmenere I LOVE the "hot feet" addition!

Sorry minor hijack there.

I met an ex through Friends Re - he was always the one who got away and is now married with two kids. Lunch cured me completely though, it was obvious we had both moved on. I wasn't with anyone at the time and certainly wouldn't have done it without my DP knowing if I'd had one then.

friends reunited has a lot to answer for

yes i loved the 'hot feet' bit too

Thanks - it just came to me, mainly because I know the feeling of temptation and basically you can string yourself a line about how it's harmless ect but you know that if it was you wouldn't mind your dp knowing.

dh would be so upset

i have realised that i live next door to x bf's friend - he chats away saying things like "im going to xxx's house this weekend" and i dont tell him i live right next door but one

its like a boiling kettle about to explode or whatever

i will see him one day at a bbq in the garden (or hanging out my washing/taking the rubbish out in my most mingin' pyjamas, no make up or brushed hair etc

Nailpolish, if I were you I would mention to your dp that you have been in touch with the ex as this will dissapate the situation. It won't have the appeal of being 'secret' in that case and is more easily explainable if you do run into him.

omg it hadnt crossed my mind dh might run into him too

i can see it now...

wtf do i say? "oh btw dh i was just chatting to xxx by email the other day etc etc"

mmmm bad idea i think, i got an email from a lad i went to school with from FR (infact his and my parents were friends when i was really little and we were always at each others houses) dh was obviously telling me to be cautious, this lad still sees my mum and sister as he lives near them (happily married) so i just said to say hello and tell him i'm asking after him, i think it would be unfair on dh for me to get in contact with him, if dh had a women contacting him and he wanted to meet up i think i would be unhappy about it