I am a massive bitch aren't I?

[superstarheartbreaker]

I have this friend but I have fallen out with her (see my sad but relieved thread) but I don't really feel relieved...I feel awful.

In some ways she has been good to me (when I crashed my car she chucked out an insuranace man who was being aggressive). She can be lovely.

However if you remember my other thread she put a lot of pressure on me to go out when I didn't really want to, she asked me to cancel my friends so I could go clubbing with her, when I went out with my friends and couldn't commit to meeting her in town she sent me lots of texts, She told me she was jealous of my relationship with my ex (but I don't know if she was joking or not, she asked me if the relationship was passionate enough, she sleeps with men who have boyfriends etc. I told her that she shouldn't do it as it is bad for her self respect.

I told her all this in an email about why I couldn't hang out with her and now she says it feels like a charcter assasination. I just feel like a massive bitch....aren't I? She told me I was a bitch as I said I couldn't support her in her divorce. I'm just so down and I'm wondering if I am a pants friend.

just because she's been nice sometimes doesn't make you a bitch for not wanting to be friends now. If she'd never been nice at all you probably wouldn't have wanted to be friends with her in the first place. sometimes friendships just end and that's life.
I wouldn't be friends with someone who called me a bitch
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Not a bitch. However, I think you've probably gone a little OTT with the chapter and verse explaining why you couldn't hang out with her. She'd have to have a pretty thick skin to hear the stuff about sleeping with men with boyfriends (?) and not get upset about it. Still, it's all been said, she'll get over it eventually and you can move on...

girls with boyfriends sorry....I am not an angel either.

So you can't hang out with her, but you are still her friend?

I'm not sure you are actually still friends. [confused[

She says that she's heartbroken......I am tootbh. We became too close like gf and bf almost but it's not healthy is it. We have kind of made up in as much as we have said nice things but I don't want her to hang out with me atm.

You've dumped her. Move on.