My parents separated ten years ago, I saw dad rarely but probably spoke once a month. Had dd1 almost 6 years ago, he came to visit when she was born then saw her at Christmas and around her birthday until she was four. He had a girlfriend with grandchildren and saw them and babysat them all the time, his house was covered in photos of them, pictures etc. But nothing about dd or I and he knew nothing about dd. When she was three I said it would be nice for dd if he could take more of an interest as she would notice that his girlfriends grandchildren were treated differently. We always made the effort to travel 2.5 hours there but he insisted I was bring silly and thought he treated dd fine.
18 months ago I was pregnant and dad knew. My grandad - his dad - whom I was close to died and rather than tell me my dad just sent a text informing me when his funeral was which I thought was out of order particularly as I lived so far away, couldn't drive at the time yet he only told Me the day before so I couldn't make arrangements to get there. I sent a card, flowers, condolences and my apologies about not being able to make the funeral. I haven't heard from my dad since - no Christmas or birthday cards for dd, no contact about his new grandchild. I am not going to waste my energies trying. To reestablish a relationship that he clearly isn't interested in and I don't need. However it annoys me that he's just washed his hands of us and forgotten we exist. I've considered sending him a sarcastic fathers day card telling him my thoughts and making it clear he has let me and my children down and can continue to do one. Am I being petty or Is it worth it for closure?