Fathers Day card

[LittleDonkin]

Me and the husband separated in March. He did not send me a mothers day card off 2.5 yo DD as he said he felt it was inappropriate!!! I also did not receive a birthday card from him from DD last month. Am I being silly not sending him a fathers day card? I just keep thinking why should I bother when he doesn't. I was going to put a message on his facebook wall on sunday.

It's entirely up to you what you do. Clearly Father's Day is important to you (or you wouldn't be c

...considering posting a FB message - Mother's Day obvs isn't important to him, nor helping DD mark your birthday - thats his choice. What you are doing is facilitating DD marking the day until she's old enough to do it for herself - once she's at school they'll take care of card production! . however, sounds a little bit to me like you are using this to measure/express 'does he still care for me' though, which it absolutely should not be about.

What Walkacrossthesand said; adding that imho, the exh was using the occasions as a declaration on his feelngs, completely ignoring the child's feelings or participation about the day. It was just an opportunity to zing you, LittleDonkin. Ignore. Don't expect anything and you won't be disappointed.

Imho, I would help DD send a card from her, let her scribble all over it, but no message from you, as he is not your father (perhaps that you are not his mother is his reason for skipping Mother's Day). Simply address the envelope and post it. Leave fb out of it.

Thanks for the replies. I can assure you I honestly don't care if he cares about me or not but I just thought it was something that separated/divorced couples did until the children are old enough to do it themselves. I have decided I aren't going to do anything as he did not mark Mothers day. We may not be together anymore but I am still DD's mum!

exDP and I do birthdays and mothers/fathers day. At Christmas it's all about DS so we don't bother.

It does feel a bit odd, but I appreciate it from exDP so do it too. If your exDP hasn't, then don't you bother either. Ad what walkacrossthesand is right - once DD is in school you'll get a card for EVERYTHING

I helped DD make him a birthday card for his birthday in March but since he didn't reciprocate for my birthday in May I will not be sending cards for any occasion now. It makes me feel like an idiot me making the effort when he doesn't