Turning it around.... strange behaviour

[MsLadyLove]

Im 8 months pregnant. DP of 8 years has started acting oddly. He has always been a bit of a moaner but recently it has got worse and odd. I have actually started documenting our conversations.
He says really unnessasary things like "Ive been out working for you all day and now i have to bath our daughter"
If i say i will bath her he will say no because this is their time. I literally cant win. He will then Ask what I have been doing all day, and when i start to tell him he replies its nothing like his day. Its like he is in competition with me. Im finding it odd. When i say im going to go out of his way to remove myself from confrontation i am then accused of sulking. Im not, i just dont want to argue. When i explain this he says i cant handle questioning and im moaning. When i ask what I am moaning about he doesnt answer.
Am i the only one who thinks this is odd? after two weeks of this it is really starting to get me down and i feel like crying most of the time.

Might sound trivial but you notice these things when something is off

It doesn't sound trivial MsLady. It sounds very upsetting. He's behaving like an arse. Poor you.

Do you think he's scared about the work of having a new baby as well as a DD? And is taking it out on you? Not that that is any excuse. At all.

It does sound like there is something specific motivating this crappy dismal moany behaviour, if it really has just begun recently. You need to ask him what's wrong because you've noticed a change in him. And how very unhappy it's making you.

If he won't engage in an adult discussion then he's not really being a viable partner right now.

Sounds like you're not getting the support you need when you're 8 months pregnant. Is you're other half usually nicer than this? Cos he sounds hard work right now

hope you can get support from other areas in your life now

When i try to explain to him he says i am being hormonal (his excuse for everytime i get upset about his behaviour) he wont take ownership for his behaviour and says i cant handle normal questioning. But his questions are always laced with some weird angle.
Sometimes half way through a conversation he will just stop listening altogether. I feel so frustrated. It is like he is trying to make me feel insecure. I just dont need it right now.
Yes he works alot, literally 24/7 he hates it but its the way his job is at the moment. Not enough resource etc. I just dont want to be around him, im calmer and happier away from him.

Unbelievable... i spoke to him last night and he said he would try and stop being stressed. Said itmmight be because we havent had sex in a while. This is mainly due to complications with pregnancy.
Anyway, he hasnt really spoken to his sisters for a while (long story but not his fault) and he woke up saying he felt bad about it. I made a comment that his feelings are confused (which they are) and he went mental at me. Shouting, swearing.
ive actually told him not to come home tonight..... its getting worse not better. Making me wonder what is really going on.

He's being a twat and gaslighting you (by saying you're the one with the problem when it's actually his behaviour that's the problem).

Are you sure it's not a case of thinking he can get away with more because you're currently in a vulnerable situation (pregnant) and need his support more?

Nice...So if you'd just have sex with him he'd stop being so nasty?

Can you get some space from him?

He needs to understand that this is NOT acceptable, especially at a time like this.

Indeed - I'd be wondering what's really going on as well.
Does he allow you access to his phone?
Is he over-protective with it etc...??
So you are 8 months pregnant with complications and he wants to know what you do all day???
Rest - that's bloomin' well what. That's no doubt what your body needs.
You are carrying around HIS small child inside you.
Let him see how he'd handle that!
He's behaving really badly.
Make sure he doesn't come home tonight. I think you need a stress free environment at the moment and it's anything but that right now.
Or could you go to a friend or parents house?
They could hold your hand and you could vent! Might help.
Look after yourself and refuse to answer any of his questions for the time being.

It does sound pretty OTT. If he's experiencing some kind of stress the mature thing to do would be to own up, apologise in advance and then try to either resolve the problem or find some way to de-stress. Lashing out at a partner just isn't acceptable.

Is he close to anyone else (family/friend) that might have some idea of what is going on?