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Really fed up of exH still being able to control my life without even doing anything

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ThreeDaughtersLoveSandwiches · 10/06/2013 12:43

Not really sure why I'm posting this or what I really want to achieve so it might end up a bit rambled, sorry.

ExH walked out on me and DC when DD3 was a week old. Things hadn't been perfect as we had been arguing for quite a while and he had started staying out overnight.

Quite quickly after he left he told me he was " interested" in someone else but that nothing had happened. A few weeks later he started telling other people he had a new girlfriend. He kept coming back to the house we lived in and sleeping with me but also telling me he was no longer in love with me.

I was not in a good place and ended up taking an overdose as he wouldn't leave me alone. He came back after about a month saying he wanted us to try again but as I had put a deposit down on a new house I moved out.

Things were kind of on and off again for the next 2 years, on when nobody else around and off when someone better came along I think. Until last year when I walked away completely.

The problem is I am a lot better than I was but still feel like my life is in limbo. I have this guilt that I don't do enough for him to see our DC and that maybe things weren't as bad as I think they were.

I am going to start seeing a councillor soon but is that going to work when I can't even explain to myself how I feel. I always thought I was quite strong and stubborn but it got to the point where I felt that I was obsessed with him. I did and said some things that were just crazy!

I don't really feel like myself anymore and can't see a way back to that. On a day to day basis I cope ok and don't really think about him but it doesn't take much to bring me down.

Sorry for going on, like I said I'm not really sure what I am doing here.

OP posts:
SirSugar · 10/06/2013 12:47

It's his responsibility to make time for DC.

You are in charge of your own life, things were bad, you got out.

Lweji · 10/06/2013 13:25

Yes, it is his choice to be a good or a bad father.
You can't make him.

Just make sure you have your own life and that he works around it, not the other way around.

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