DP lied to me

[beautybox2]

Hi
I'll be straight to the point here
DP gets 2 missed calls last night from a female work friend, we didn't see it till this morning.
I asked why she would be ringing At 12 at night so he texted her asking that
He got a text back saying because we thought you were going to (a bar in town)
DP then decides to tell me that they were trying to make him go for a drink after he finished work at 10 but h told them no.
He then rang the work friend and said why are you ringing me I told you I wasn't coming and she said but said you were (his boss)

I don't know why he feels the need to lie, I had dinner waiting and he knew this so I went to bed at 10.30 after waiting up and put dinner in the fridge.

After he rang her I messages her on Facebook and asked her what itwasall about as he was lying to me and she said that after they went out for a Indian they thought he was going to the bar.... He failed to tell me he was going out for a meal with work friends.
I wouldn't have mindedbut the fact he lied to me about going out after work has upset me, he knew I had made him dinner.
I had a long day with the children and could have done with a early night. Why would he need to lie!! He said he's sorry. He also said he think that this work colleague fancies him and he said his boss thinks so too so I'm thinking he's got something else to hide.

Apparent ly he has been afew times for a Indian after work and has never told me and said if I knew I wouldn't have liked it? I have never not let him do what he wants why does he need to lie!!
I've since messages work friend asking if anything else is going on and she won't reply! I don't get it!

Please let me know your opinions

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Blimey, the chippie must pay well then if he can afford all these indian meals and drinks after work!

OP sorry if this may sound a little blunt but I understand the lies are upsetting but could he be lying to avoid conflict with you if he'd told you truth? Regardless of where he works or what job he has, contacting his colleagues was an extreme reaction IMO. You were upset that you'd cooked and now you're saying if you'd known you could have phoned your mum but if you'd have wanted to chat with her what difference would him going out make? Maybe your reactions make him feel the need to lie??

Why not get a job yourself and go out and meet people? It is definitely more difficult when you've got young children I know because I've never not worked but you are a very young woman and you should be socialising too

The work friend messaged me and told me her battery died so couldn't reply but that DP has been going once a week for a Indian on a Saturday night ( when I thought he was doing his weekly deep clean) so I've always expected him later.
I have also spoke to DP about this and he said he's sorry and doesn't know why he didn't tell me, nor do I! We are best friends we got together when I was 15, he's everything to me and we talk about everything and are very close, but he's been walking through the door most Saturdays knowing he hasn't come straight home but doesn't tell me?
Why lie about something not even worth lying about!

I've said to work colleague sorry to get you involved and that I hope things will be alright and she's fine and understands how I feel.
We have agreed that DP will let me know if going out after work so I won't need to wait up! Sorted! Phewww

Thank LEM for that useful input!

Happy to help