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Can men genuinely go off sex?

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EastbourneGal · 28/05/2006 10:54

I've been with DP for 3 years and we have a 14 month DD. DD has never slept through the night, and still doesnt...but we have never known different. Yet, in the last 5 months, DP doesnt seem at all interested in sex or any intimacy. Granted, hes been promoted at work in the last few months and works very long hours - we are both tired....but we are barely having sex once a month nowadays. Does anyone else have this with their partners? Can men genuinely go off sex, or does it automatically mean they are playing away or no longer wanting to be in the relationship? Im at a loss. He isnt a talker, and Im getting nowhere. Cant go on like this tho. Am I wrong to expect some affection?
Any advice - purleeeeease???

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expatinscotland · 28/05/2006 11:07

He's probably beyond shattered. A holiday might be in order.

TBH, w/two kids under 3 and 3 jobs between us and no suitable birth control - I cannot take hormones anymore and the NHS won't give DH the vasectomy he wants b/c of his age - sex isn't on the top list of priorities for either of us just now.

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EastbourneGal · 28/05/2006 11:45

I'd accept that if he would talk to me about it, but he wont. We are both tired, and I havent got the drive I used to...I think it's more the affection I miss. Don't you miss it?

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expatinscotland · 28/05/2006 16:25

i'm too tired to miss much these days, eastbourne, tbh

jac34 · 28/05/2006 16:36

It proberbly depends on the man in question.If he wasn't very highly sexed in the first place,then it is quite possible that being very tired,would put him off sex.
If it were my DH I would be worried,as he has always had a very high sex drive,even when our DS twins were small and we were both working full time.
Also,if he is as busy as you say,how could he have the time to play away.
Try not to worry too much,perhaps try to have a talk about it,but I'm sure things will improve once he's got used to his increased responsibility at work and your children have got a bit older and less demanding.

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EastbourneGal · 28/05/2006 17:58

Thanks for the input. Did text him this a.m as he never talks in person.....but have yet to recieve an answer. So not feeling too confident at the moment!

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