This popped up on my newsfeed today..
"Immature people falling in love destroy each other's freedom, create a bondage, make a prison. Mature persons in love help each other to be free; they help each other to destroy all sorts of bondages. And when love flows with freedom there is beauty. When love flows with dependence there is ugliness.
A mature person does not fall in love, he or she rises in love. Only immature people fall; they stumble and fall down in love. Somehow they were managing and standing. Now they cannot manage and they cannot stand. They were always ready to fall on the ground and to creep. They don't have the backbone, the spine; they don't have the integrity to stand alone.
If a problem is fixable, if a situation is such that you can do something about it, then there is no need to worry. If it's not fixable, then there is no help in worrying. There is no benefit in worrying whatsoever."
His Holiness the XIVth Dalai Lama
Does that feel true for you? I know some of the worst relationships I've had are the ones where I was far too dependent on my partner, and some of the best were where I felt secure and independent. But then the idea of no dependency at all feels a little bit lonely.. Is Mr Lama right? Or is it better to have some kind of middle ground?