About 18 months ago I ventured onto this board to ask your advice on how best to support my cousin, whose mum (my aunt) is a raging narcissist. A lot of you gave me helpful advice, web links and so on, and I have spent a lot of time and emotional energy in following your suggestions.
I just want you to know that it has all made a huge difference. From feeling that she must have something 'wrong' with her to be treated so badly, my cousin has now moved on to the stage where she has accepted that her mother will never change, that the problem is not with her and that she is allowed to grieve for the relationship she should have had. She is stronger and happier than I have ever seen her - there is still a long way to go, but the improvement in her life is dramatic. She has found a job in her career field, established a strong loving relationship with a man who understands her and has better physical health too.
You all played your part in that. Thank you for being there. 