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How to reignite the spark?

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cherhorowitz · 06/06/2013 12:12

DP and I have been together for six years next month and engaged for three. We've lived together for five years, have two children aged (almost) 5 and 2 and are just coming out the other end of a rocky financial patch (benefits but I've just got a job). I fell pregnant very early on in our relationship but we really wanted to make it work and we did. We've always been a very happy, in love and passionate couple but it feels like the passion has gone.

We've been sat at home with each other, only venturing out to go shopping or for a walk, with a two year old for a year now. We do the school run, we make dinner together then we sit in front of the TV and do nothing. We still have sex 2-3 times a week and our love is still very strong for each other but it feels a little stale.

We won't be able to afford to get a babysitter and go out together until the end of July or the beginning of August. He has a job starting in the next few weeks and I start Monday so things are definitely looking up but now I feel we're going to miss each other as he could possibly work in the evenings and weekend while I work a 9-5 Mon-Fri.

I don't want our passion to escape again like it has been because we're very intent on marrying next year, love each other fiercely and adore each other's company but I've really run out of ideas to bring that closeness and spark back.

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Rockchick1984 · 06/06/2013 13:52

We try to have "date night" once a week - I cook us something special or we get a take away, and we eat once DS is asleep. We often snuggle up and watch a film after we've eaten (under a quilt, rather than on separate couches like we usually do!), or if its a nice evening we sit in the garden, share a bottle of wine and just talk. Occasionally I can convince my mum to put DS to bed so we can go round to the pub for a quiet drink - may only be gone an hour but its nice to feel like a couple for that hour rather than just parents.

Is he going to be doing shifts that change if you say he may be working evenings and weekends? If so, schedule something in as soon as you know his hours, otherwise it's too easy not to get round to it.

Congratulations on the job by the way!

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