my sister sent this to me , i really want to cry

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Just found this msg on FB it was sent a month ago..I know,, and she would still think you were a nut case as she did before she died,,, you're just a laughing stock trying to reconnect with all the family you deleted when you had 1 of you tantrums,, nobody is interested,, so keep making a fool of yourself you twit,,, I know who my family are,,,,,, thats why I will be with them tomorrow!!!!!

I've never been liked by my family and im not really close to them ( not through choice, just the way it was, cause they wernt very nice to me!!) although they are very close to each other, so why had this made me want to cry ( which i cant do in fount of the children

I don't understand sorry

I don't understand either

She's found a message on fb, sent a month ago which says:

I know, and she would still think you were a nut case like she did before she died ..... etc.

No i didnt make it very clear did I!! |I sent her a message saying her mother ( who was our mother!!) would be very proud of her after she sent another attack through someone else in the family as they were all going out for a family meal and i and my immediate (husband and Kids!!) family were the only ones not even invited her reply was below

I know,, and she would still think you were a nut case as she did before she died,,, you're just a laughing stock trying to reconnect with all the family you deleted when you had 1 of you tantrums,, nobody is interested,, so keep making a fool of yourself you twit,,, I know who my family are,,,,,, thats why I will be with them tomorrow!!!!!

Your sister is not worth your time, effort or tears by the sounds of it.

What happened initially to cause the rift? Where you to blame originally or has your sister always been a bit unhinged?

No im the one who's unhinged in her book, she came into my house, and critercized my decorating, i didn't say anything, and made excuses not to see her for a good while after but then the next time she came she made a negative comment about something else to which i relied Your so very rude,, then she left, with me following her to the door and locking it as i always do, the next thing was my other sister and niece on FB were making Comments Like Oh your so rude , obviously having a dig at me, I did then delete them all ( i know its immature ) i just couldn't take the nastiness

WORST of all ive just replied

i am unhinged arnt i

i know i really wish i hadn't replied, at least what i sent was respectful, although blunt, why are some people so very happy in seeing people suffer, it always hurt and still does to know that they are all together and have each other and it me who's the outcast,, i'd love to have the ability not to care about others feelings.. I'm so hurt

I think sometimes the choice is between an abusive family or no family at all sadly. You might want to check out this website - you are not the only family outcast - far from it

www.lightshouse.org

lightshouse.org/lights-blog/outcast-scapegoat-or-black-sheep-of-the-dysfunctiona-family

Will take a look, Thank you for your help it's a shame when family's are like this , but after her latest torrent of Bullying and nastiness, i'm going to look at the positive of the people who matter the most,, My family and Very good friends XX

You can't choose family, but you can choose how much you let them upset you. You have already done a fair bit of detaching from them, from what you say, in the interests of self-preservation. Every now and then a little upset will worm its way through a chink in your armour, like this FB nonsense. Just write it off, forget it. You have your own family, I expect you have good friends. Do you have a good relationship with your partner's side of the family? Look for substitutes if your own family are toxic bullies.

Get rid of them all from FB.

Move on with your only family and friends. You really don't need them. There is nothing wrong with ignoring/dumping people who are horrible to you, whoever they are. Your DC don't need any contact with them either.

It is not your fault.

Thank you DonkeysDontRideBicycles Anad Mummytime, your both quiet right, unfortunately i'm a soft touch with everyone, I really do need to wise up, I'm far to old to be caring about her childish ways, her last rant called me everything that she obviously is,, My saving grace was that i didn't bother replying ( just had half a bottle of wine to celebrate the dumping