Help! I have an evil mil. Don't know where to start but my partners mother is ruining our relationship. My DS is 10 months old and it all started from the day he was born. She was desperate to get him to herself, I was BF and unable to express so couldn't allow her to take him away from me, plus to be honest I felt very protective of him probably due to hormones. Then the pressure to bottle feed started. Once she realised that wasn't going to be an option she started saying when he was unhappy/unsettled this was due to me drinking and breastfeeding! I knew my limits and he had a formula bottle at night and I didn't breastfeed between 5pm and 5am. That was 12 hours without me feeding so if I wanted to have a glass or two of wine that was fine. She constantly made digs and comments to me. Then all hell broke loose one night and she started crying and accused me of being a terrible mother/bitch/waste of space etc. We had a big argument and since then it's been difficult. I can't do anything without her having an opinion about it and voicing it to my partner who then feeds it back to me. She is unstable and tbh I worry about her mental health. My DS has had quite a few colds and she blames this on me. She makes comments implying I should be back at work (I'm off for a year), I go out to much ( because I have a social life and my partner chooses not too), and generally don't do things right. My partner is very defensive of her and I can't say anything to her if I don't agree with what she's done or said without her going away crying and making me out to be rude/ungrateful. Just the other day I was telling her I was going to buy him pram shoes as soon he will be walking and then we will take him to get his first pair of shoes fitted. She had him that afternoon and even after I had told her my plans......went and got his first pair of shoes properly fitted(which he isn't ready for). When I told her I had wanted to do that as it was a big thing she said "that's a shame"! Another example of her lack of respect for me. Now she has caused another argument between my partner and I by crying and telling my partner I was rude and ungrateful. Would anyone else be upset by this? Or am I over reacting? Sorry for such a long message.