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in love? with a "troublemaker"!!!

13 replies

iamsexyandiknowit · 04/06/2013 07:56

Making out with this hot BF. he's got one hell of a baggage- divorced with 3 DS/DD and has a DP with a DD. we are into each other sexually, he says all the sweet things, we SWOI. he s messing up my thoughts. gotta stop this craziness but we work at d same place. gotta quit my job, me thinks! but WTF is the wrong with me????

OP posts:

Grinkly · 04/06/2013 08:24

Well, he has ishoos, perhaps a disrupted childhood, did he have emotionally unavailable parent? - something is making him behave like a selfish loon.

So what is your history? Perhaps a staid, steady childhood or previous relationship so you are looking for some fireworks now?

If you can work out what is behind yours and his behaviour you might have more chance of coming to your senses.

Bogeyface · 04/06/2013 08:40

What the eff is wrong with you is that you are shagging someone elses partner.

Forget how "hot" he is, how into him sexually you are, and grow up. You sound like a teenager, its pathetic.

utterlyconfused11 · 04/06/2013 08:43

Think the name says it all shes up herself but reality is if he wasnt shagging you he would be doing someone else so your not so special

Pagwatch · 04/06/2013 08:45

Please don't pretend that you can't help yourself because he is just so irresistible.
You are chosing to shag around with a bloke who gives not a shit about you, or his DP, or about telling the truth.

He will continue to be an utter twat. Stop pretending to yourself that this is something you can't control . You are chosing an arsehole.
Maybe try and work out why that is good enough for you?

maidmarian2012 · 04/06/2013 16:47

This is silly. How old are you OP?

Onesleeptillwembley · 04/06/2013 16:51

Is this a mistake? Did you mean to send it to a teen mag?

simplesusan · 04/06/2013 16:54

Get rid of him. You rally don't want to be the bit on the side htoi this twat.

KatieScarlett2833 · 04/06/2013 16:59

..... No.
( steps away from keypad )

BOF · 04/06/2013 17:00

Are you very young?

Fluffymonster · 04/06/2013 17:57

What does SWOI mean?

Why do you have to quit your job, why can't he? Don't you take your career seriously? Doesn't he take your career seriously?

His history with women doesn't seem that reliable, nor is his record as a Dad.

If you think this makes him 'hot' because he's moved onto you, it doesn't - it just makes him a twat.

Just because a twat pays you attention and 'says all the sweet things', it doesn't make you sexy, just easy.

Sorry if that sounds blunt.

HighInterestRat · 04/06/2013 18:03

Are you single? If I was single the last person I'd want is someone with a current partner as well as children from a previous relationship. Find somebody shiny and new and have a nice life together ffs. Drama llama.

AuntieStella · 04/06/2013 18:05

What is wrong with you?

Low self-esteem probably. Something is driving you towards a Mr Unavailable. If you want NSA sex, then you'd be much better off choosing someone single. Same in spades if you want a relationship.

And either way, never a colleague.

AndTheBandPlayedOn · 04/06/2013 18:09

SWOI = sex without intercourse? Kind of an oxymoron, isn't it?

No matter how sexy you think you are imsexyandiknowit, is your purpose for having a job to earn a paycheck, or find hot BFs? WTF is wrong is that you are not keeping these two things separate. Never date coworkers.

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