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A really confused mum

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ClareL · 26/05/2006 13:09

My DH has always been incredibly moody. Most of the time due to stress at work. He can't deal with them both and goes completely into himself. This has gone on for the 11 years we have been together but he has been in his latest job for 2 years and the stress levels are unbearable and his mood swings are lasting longer and longer. He has been ultra miserable and hardly uttered a word for the last 6 weeks and this week it's got even worse. I am a SAHM and am now really worried that he has had enough and is going to leave us (myself, DD 6 and DS 2.6). I gave up work when I had my DS as childcare was too expensive for 2 and have always done all the chores/gardening/the lot. He doesn't have to lift a finger at the weekend. I feel I have been a very supportive wife but he won't talk to me about anything. I have tried desperately but now we are not even saying hello at night when he comes in from work - and last nite was 10pm. I now can't stop crying and the worry is eating me alive as I can't understand how a normal healthy relationship can just slide away until there's nothing in a matter of weeks. I know I should try and talk to him but he just says there's nothing wrong and that the reason he isn't speaking is because there isn't a lot to say at the moment!! I am not coping well and am trying my hardest to hide it from my children. If he leaves me where do I start?

OP posts:
hermykne · 26/05/2006 16:24

ps i m not suggesting your husband is at this stage but elements of this might help Smile

Hoopoe · 26/05/2006 16:35

ClareL, really feel for you. Don't have anything to add to what everyone else has said but just wanted to offer my support too. Sad

ClareL · 26/05/2006 16:43

Thanks Hermykne. Read thru the ladies article and found it really interesting. The fact that she stated a boyfriend used to say that she went from Eeyore to Tigger is so like my DH. I don't know how much this has to do with it but he is a Gemini and as much as I don't believe in 'star signs' he has got a massive split personality. The nice DH used to be around a lot longer than the horrible DH but it seems to be changing. I am going to keep a reference to the article and mention it to him over the weekend.

It's such an awful way to live and it's now getting close to him coming home from work and I already feel sick at the thought of it. When he's in a good mood he phones every day to see how we all are and then phones on his way home. But now he is in a depressive mood he doesn't phone at all and then just walks thru the door!! Lovely way to live!!

OP posts:
hermykne · 26/05/2006 18:23

clarel
glad it was helpful.
hope it goes well over the weekend.
h

MrsBigD · 29/05/2006 11:07

ClareL, how is it going? Has the mood improved over the weekend?

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