I want to talk about sex

[itsn0tmeitsyou]

How much do people in their thirties, who've been together a long time, and have children, have sex? And do you still feel sexually attracted to your DPs/DHs?

I feel like I am missing something, but am totally unsure about what is realistic, and therefore whether I am just wishing for something unattainable. Any answers much appreciated!!

Surely it must vary wildly. It depends on individusl sex drives.

Hi itsn0tme
I was reading your other thread earlier so I understand why you are asking this question.

I've been with my DH for 23 years. I've just turned 40. If we are incredibly busy or stressed then we have less sex but normally we have sex a couple of times a week. Sometimes more, sometimes less.
We are definitely still attracted to each other and love each other very much. We are well matched with our sex drives.

It has peaked and waned over the years. Any issues in our relationship has shown itself through our levels of intimacy.

It's more difficult with young children I think. Life can be constantly exhausting and sleep definitely becomes the priority.

I think if sex is a priority for you, then you will both make time for it regardless of young children etc. I havent read the other thread though so dont know the back story?

thanks for your replies. Not one people want to join in on much, though! Was hoping the anonymity would get more people sharing.
Thanks anyway :)

um we are v early 30's and have 14month old dd..we have been together 10 years. we prob have sex maybe once a week at the weekend or sometimes twice. sometimes not for couple of weeks depending how badly dd sleeps. we are both okay with it. sleep sleep is king in our house!!

When I was in my thirties it was usually most nights when he was home, sometimes twice a night. probably six or seven times a week. my feeling of attraction for him has fluctuated over time, tends to have been stronger when he has been more assertive and in control, I find male dominance very sexy.

Depends what's going on. We have 16 month old DD and even though she sleeps well we're usually both shattered so sometimes it's once every two weeks, sometimes less! We're mid twenties, and definitely still attracted to each (as far as I'm aware).

Some weeks we can have sex a few times though so, as I said, it really does depend.

When I was mid 30's it was probably 4-5 times a week.