Any advice

[mrsericnorthmaniwish]

I been on here a lot lately,your words are always a comfort and help me realise I am doing the right thing. I finally decided on divorce,after a few years of being unhappy but continuing for the children and the hope it may get better.my h does not help with dcs-never does bath/bed time,never takes them out,never gets up in the and,stays up late at night in computer,works weekends then has time off in week,there is more but it will become an essay:(I have gradually distanced myself and got on with mine and dcs lives.he received the letter a month ago and since then he been angry,upset,blamed me entirely for everything,wants counselling then finally I have been told the house will have to be sold as its owned by him and a member of his family(I did not know this, I knew it as a loan for him to pay back but they actually had an agreement drawn up and co-own the property-my home!!)and they want their money back so dcs and i will have to find somewhere to live and he will to,he reckons he will change but has done nothing at all for me to think he really means it.he is now continuing as if its all ok again-this drives me mad, its like he thinks the threat of losing my home will make me stay,once I would have thought so but not now,it will be a hard road but I am sure me and dcs will be fine. His attitude to continue as normal makes things harder cause I doubt myself again and again:( any advice appreciated, thanks for reading

Start proceedings for divorce. You can do this while still in same house.
If you have to move out, fine. Get yourself on council waiting list

Meanwhile contact tax credits, find out what financial support you can get.

The petition is ready,I just have to read and sign(he knows I have started this), if the house does have to go I have found out what I need to do,just about to find out about tax credit entitlements for myself as lone parent but in same house.can I really move out with dcs?will this not affect anything?thanks for your reply:)

It won't affect your interest in the property or right to maintenance. Obviously from a budget POV you may find things tight. But no there's no legal reason to stay under the same roof.

I'm not great on property law, you may be able to register a charge on the house preventing it being sold without notice to you.

I know it's expensive but in view of his family jiggery pokery with the house I think you need a solicitor

You might be better off re posting in legal rather than relationships btw

Thank you,have registered my rights on property so it can't be sold without my knowledge.its his way of just continuing and behaving like nothing is happening and that what was done with property is no big deal, it is to me though :(

I'm not surprised its s big deal to you, it's a massive lie. You're doing brilliantly in truth.

There is i think something under family law where you can get some sort of occupation order of the house, so you can stay and he has to go. Not sure how the family member part owning would affect this. Lots of councils now help people with deposit money for private rented properties which is another option. Good luck.

Chubfudler thank you for that, I am very upset about what they have done,I feel u should have been made aware at least even though it was not my money we were married,even if I was made aware I had to leave at least I would have known,he sees it as no big deal though.nottalotta- I think the agreement they have was done for this reason,to look after themselves and their pennies.they don't appear to care about dcs and I,we can go sort ourselves out.yes, I will get help from the council apparently for privately rented property.thank you - just makes me feel even worse than I did before I found this out:(