Sitting here, feeling useless, need to reply to best friends text -what do I say?

[ilikecooking]

Takes a lot for him to open up to me. He is a complicated character but I wouldn't be without him as a friend. He is Aspie so isn't really understood by some.

He texted a little while ago (today) saying he's not really meeting the girls he'd like to and likes a girl but she makes him feel invisible.

I am just so sad for him, he's had his heart broken before and deserves to be happy.

I've suggested he tries and swaps phone numbers with her or that they could go for a bite to eat in the cafe by their workplace, or that he says he has tickets for something. I just want to give him a big squeezie hug and tell him I love him but he would misinterpret what I am saying.

Any ideas as to how I can cheer him up/make him feel more positive tonight via text?

Why would you encourage him to spend time with someone he likes who makes him feel invisible? Surely that is setting him up for more heartbreak?

This may be well left-field, but the girl couldn't be you, could it?

I would tell him he's a great person and things will work at the right time.

Also pondering loughle's suggestion, but then that sounds a bit oblique if he's Aspie.

And surely if the OP is such a good friend she couldn't make him feel invisible.

What I would suggest is pick up the phone don't just text.
Texts are a mind field. ESP with someone with Asp who will take everything litteraly.

How old is he? Does he have hobbies? Anywhere he could.meet someone that way

Thing is, if this woman makes him feel invisible, he's probably barking up the wrong tree isn't he? That last thing he probably needs is to be viewed as a bit of a pest, so if he can't interpret signals very well, maybe you can suggest he asks the advice of someone who knows them both and who can read her signals better than he can?

As a rule though, when a friend says he's unhappy, pick up the phone or go to see him if possible. Don't text.

Text him to sympathise and ask if he wants to talk about it over coffee? or suggest meet-up...