So this is probably an AIBU, but I'm too scared upset to post there tonight.
Background - split with ex 3 years ago, we have 3 DC and he has had intermittent contact with them (usually when he wants something from me) and he now lives 250 miles away.
Two main issues at the moment are,
- he was living with his mother and she died a couple of months ago, now he's trying to get a succession of tenancy and wants me to write a supporting letter saying he 'needs' a 2 bed property as he has the DC to visit/stay (they've been twice in 3 years). I'm not comfortable with this as its not true, and also anything I put in writing he could use against me at a later date.
- he has come here a handful of times to visit the DC, I have made it clear that he can't stay here overnight and yet he still pushes for this, last time he visited he asked to have a bath, go for a nap in my bed, and various other little things that irked me. It's not his house, he's never lived here and I can't imagine acting like that if I was visiting someone and maybe I am BU as just because its different from what I'd do doesn't mean its wrong? Now he wants to visit this weekend (probably to bully me into writing the letter!) and has told the DC he will be staying with us etc.and this is after a load of verbal insults and abuse when I wouldn't do what he wanted.
I'm livid which might be clouding my judgement, so please help!