Wanting something you cant have

[FireFly81]

I'm going to put this in the best terms i can think of.

Basically, say you really like a certain house and you really, really want to buy it. You love what it looks like on the outside and have heard great things about the inside of it but have never actually been in it yourself, still you imagine this house to be the house of your dreams and no other house will do.

You become obsessed with the house and the idea of it being yours but in reality, it is never going to happen and you know this, so why do you still want it so much?

Has the house become your idea of an ideal house? is it REALLY that house you want or is it the bigger picture that you should be looking at? Is it A house that you want? something which makes you as happy as the house you think so much about but cant have?

And lastly, does the person with the obsession run the risk of building up such a perfect picture in their imagination that they begin eliminating the possibility of buying any other house as no other house could ever compare to that picture?

Interested in your thoughts.

Ask yourself why you want that house?

Then ask yourself how you think you would feel if you lived there?

This kind of line of questioning is the most likely way of finding out what you really want in life - something you've connected with that house in your subconscious.

Well we are not really talking houses though are we.
distance yourself so you can't see this house if you know it can't be and it will be less tempting and you can move on and stop dreaming about this house.Get yourself a house you know you can live in and be happy

yes perhaps out of sight is out of mind, distract yourself until someone attainable comes along..concentrate on having some fun doing things you enjoy

If you're saying, can you ever get over an obsession with someone, I think the answer is yes - once or twice in my life I've been totally totally obsessed with someone, and it has, gradually, ebbed away. In each case it's left me with some great memories but really, also, a sense of relief that the memory of being with that person was never tarnished by the reality of living together - y'know, shopping, cooking, cleaning, all that tawdry hum-drum reality.

Enjoy it while it lasts, but like everything else in life, it WILL change.

To dream the impossible dream, To live the impossible life, To... Can't really remember the words to this song but I dream like this all the time!

Do you already have a house? Is it a good house?

Always remember that even the nicest of houses can have hideous drain problems, or a madman in the attic, or unpleasant next-door-neighbours.
And that can apply in the smartest residential areas too.
Better a cosy bungalow where you know where the water turns off and how much your electric bills are, and could find your way round in power cut, than a smart facade and an empty larder.

Agree with Marina.

How very profound young lady!!

Cant you rent the house for a bit before committing yourself to buying?

still nice to dream though!

Marina, that is a fab post!!

Reckon like most houses, you'd soon tire of it and/or outgrow it and want to start looking for an even better one. Familiarity breeds contempt and all that!