is it me or him

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I've been chatting to a guy OD, only for 2 days. We've been texting all day today. He asked me what kind of guy I go for and I said I wasn't sure but he would have to be confident because I'm bossy. I meant it in a light hearted way. I also said that I had limited time because I was a single parent. He said I was trying to put him off and the reason he was interested in me was because I stated on my profile I was looking for a relationship. He asked if he was wasting his time. I don't want to sabotage but this has made me feel a bit uncomfortable. My view is that we should just take it easy and wait until we meet to see if we like each other. I'm tempted to cancel our coffee date now. Do you think I'm being over sensitive?

Yes, I was trying to do banter because I was a bit thrown by the question. To be honest there's something not right. I feel under pressure and i can't put my finger on why. I told him I was busy and still proceeded to fire questions at me, for example, 6 fav movies, books etc. I will cancel I feel he might be needy. It was the way he said I was trying to put him off and the blaming way he highlighted I said I wanted a relationship in my profile. Yes, I did, so what, it doesn't mean with every guy that shows me attention. I will tell him he's not for me. I want to feel relaxed but for some reason I feel a little bit nervous of him. It could of course just be me being neurotic. :)

youve made the right decision

Ooh no, that sounds more like interrogation than a conversation.

Mad, that's it. It definitely didn't feel light. I can't be bothered with the stress. I need someone really light. He feels suffocating and I'm not 100% sure why. I'm scared to text but I'm going to do it. I think he will respond by being mean.

I've sent it and swiftly blocked. I just said I mulled over our conversation yesterday and felt we were looking for different things. I'm relieved. Phew!

Oh my god his response was whatever. I don't know how the message came through because I blocked him.

Eek, well I hope the block has kicked in now. Rude arse. Next!

I don't think block works. I am not all surprised at his response. My god, this is a grown, professional man. Anyone on pof beware the head teacher.

Moving on to texts within two days was a bit much. Texts are always more personal and you feel you have to respond to every ping. Whereas online on the site, you can respond if/when you are ready or ignore and disappear! I would get to know someone a bit better before giving them my mobile no.

sounds like an arse

It's a difficult one. Where do you draw the line? I was unsure but then thought I could block if I didn't want to chat. I will be more cautious in future about giving my number. It's all very complicated this dating thingy.

In my experience of OD you will ignore these sorts of warnings at your peril. If something feels wrong after 2 days, then it is, as far as I am concerned (from experience). Mind you, one guy I chatted to on the phone, i decided he was not for me and text him afterwards saying 'nice to meet you blah blah, but...' And he replied back saying 'I can see why you're single'. Oh nice - no need to be rude.

I can't block or even delete a number permanently on my phone. I have tried but when I get a text from a blast from the past and only the number comes up, I can always find out who it is.

Stubbed, that made me laugh. Some people are just not right. What ever happened to just wishing someone well. Unapologetic, I'm worried I can't do it on my phone either. It does have a blocked function which clearly doesn't work. I may go in to the shop for some guidance.