Book recommendation for coping with breakdown of relationship

[verygentlydoesit]

I've posted already about the breakdown of my relationship. Sorry to clutter the board with my posts but I would really like to try and get some reading material to help me.

It was a difficult relationship, which part of me knows I'm best out of, but I need to convince the whole of me IYSWIM, and I need to make a damned good effort at moving on.

Ideally I would like a kindle book as I'm taking DC away tomorrow and so a delivery won't get here in time.

I was reading Lundy Bancroft's 'Should I stay or should I go' it is brilliant but I can't face it now as there's a lot of stuff about maybe fixing things etc.. We are past that stage now do I think I need to read something different.

All suggestions very very gratefully received.

This is meant to be good. Available on kindle I think.

Thank you littlemiss, I've looked it up on Amazon and it looks good. I'm going to download it now.

:)

I hope I don't end up needing it again but think I will :(

I don't think you can convince yourself by reading a book. I think you have to convince yourself - painstakingly, consciously, with effort and over a long period of time - that your new life is better than the old one. That's the only way to fight off regrets.

Oh dear, I'm really sorry to hear that littlemiss. I'm totally unqualified to give advice, having contentedly put up with ridiculous amounts of fickwittery for years, but I'm sending you a hug and some strength.

I've read it in parts but not all. Meant to be v good.

I know cogito, but I find reading therapeutic, and it might just help. If I'm left with my thoughts I go around and around in circles, and end up justifying P's behaviour- because my reasonableness radar is useless.

We're fine now and its early days: new r'ship.

But I am beginning to see more and more red flags by the week.