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Wedding :-)

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TheNobodies · 28/05/2013 16:10

Just looking for advice on what to do. We REALLY want to get married, but we have very little money.

I'm a very simple woman and a big wedding doesn't catch my eye, he's basically the same we only want close family and friends there.

Do you think we should wait a couple of years and save up or just go for the cheap wedding and tie the knot soon.. Don't know what to do, the only thing I'm sure of it that I want to spend the rest of my life with him! X

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ratbagcatbag · 28/05/2013 16:12

Good luck

BabylonReturns · 28/05/2013 16:13

I think you already have your answer. It's not about showing everyone a lavish party, it's about being together. So do it, and have a blessing in a few years when you've saved some pennies :)

HaveToWearHeels · 28/05/2013 16:13

Ah just go for it, register office or nice hotel and a meal with friends afterwards. We had a small wedding with 30 guests and it was lovely and intimate.

Dahlialover · 28/05/2013 16:18

Register office, take parents to dinner afterwards, or family party in local church hall :). My family are not into big do's, but like to get together once in a while (preferably not funerals)

Lottapianos · 28/05/2013 16:19

Cheapo wedding and do it soon. Think of all the other things you could spend 2 years worth of savings on!

Congratulations

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TheNobodies · 28/05/2013 16:22

Thank you, it looks like a cheap wedding! My partner only has 10 people he wants to invite anyway. So I think I will talk tonight and get it sorted :-D x

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HaveToWearHeels · 28/05/2013 19:49

Yay, congratulations :)

gettingeasiernow · 28/05/2013 20:00

Cheap wedding with lots of love and laughter, the only things that matter. Soon as poss. In someone's garden if necessary. Congrats!

M10s · 28/05/2013 20:20

Congratulations TheNobodies, on deciding to get married!

It will be lovely and all the better for having your close family and friends to help you celebrate. Brilliant time of year to be planning and what to plan rather depends on where you live, what you like, etc.

There are loads of things you could do cheaply, but just to give you some idea an example could be, a Registry Office wedding (there are lots of beautiful registry offices, lots of Registrars who will help you personalise your ceremony and lots of ways you could involve your close family and friends. Make it special.
You could do this (for example, Scotland prices) from as little as £125, including your Marriage Certificate.
Then the reception. One way of doing this cheaply is to ask close family and friends to provide things, instead of wedding presents. You could ask someone with (for example) a lovely garden and gazebo, to provide that. You could ask a few others to provide salads and finger foods, one or two others could bring puddings or cupcakes. Everyone could bring a bottle of wine.
An ipod for music, a dress from the high street, children making floral displays and you've got yourself a lovely wedding day, cheaply and really involving the people who matter!
If you let people help and provide, they will, and they'll get real pleasure out of it.

Lots of variations of this you could adapt, according to where you live and what you like. Have fun planning!

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TheNobodies · 28/05/2013 20:29

I live in Derbyshire. Anyone know of any cheap outdoor ceremonies?

For the afterdo we are going to finda cheap gazebo and have it in one of the farm fields(I live on a farm with beautiful views).

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ThePinkOcelot · 28/05/2013 21:43

Defo cheap wedding. Why spend loads of money when neither of you want to. Go for it. Congrats xx

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TheNobodies · 28/05/2013 22:21

Thank you all for your replies! Been looking for ceremonies and found one nearby, outside which has. an African Gazeebo. Emailed them asking if they can just do the ceremony and if they can what are the dates they have available this year :-D.

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WafflyVersatile · 28/05/2013 23:38

Registry office, gazeebo, barbeque. blankets for picnic if it's nice extra layer over dresses if it's cold.

Congratulations!

ratbagcatbag · 29/05/2013 04:17

Yey. Have they got back to you yet?
I cut lots of costs on wedding. Made my invites by hand, had everyone bring trays of cakes for evening do etc, artificial flowers from ebay etc.

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TheNobodies · 29/05/2013 14:32

I heard back this morning. We are having our Civil Ceremony outside in the Countryside in an African Gazebo hut, cost £250.

But we have decided to wait until next year because I only work part-time and my partner isn't getting a good income yet. So a year gives us time to get abit of cash and save lots of money for our HONEYMOON :D!!

Going to book the 4th July 2014 in the next few weeks, EXCITED!

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TheNobodies · 29/05/2013 16:14

I have a problem.

They only have two dates available next year.
17th April or 19th April.

19th is very practical because it's a Saturday and then people don't have to book time of work... BUT thats the date my son was buried in 2012. Should I avoid the 19th, sorry for being silly!

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BlingLoving · 29/05/2013 16:25

OhNobodies - only you can answer that question. Definitely don't do it if it's going to make the day harder. But perhaps you could also take a moment in the day to remember your son? Obviously you'll remember him no matter what, but you could have a brief moment or prayer or few words?

BlingLoving · 29/05/2013 16:26

Sorry, posted without realising I'd lost a bit of my first sentence! It was supposed to say,

Oh Nobodies that must be so hard I'm sorry. Only you can answer that question.

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TheNobodies · 29/05/2013 16:32

Just spoke to my partner, we've decided to tie the knot on Saturday19th April 2014!

We normally go away for that weekend to remember our baby boy, but we have decided if he was here he wouldn't want anything else but us to marry. So we will be doing it 2 years since he was layed at rest and my little boy will be getting my bridal flowers I'll be carrying down the Ile layed on his resting place

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BlingLoving · 29/05/2013 16:40

That sounds lovely, and like a wonderful way to include him in this day. Congratulations!

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TheNobodies · 29/05/2013 17:19

I'm scared of telling people, what do if people don't care? Especially family members? I have a feeling some wont.

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BlingLoving · 29/05/2013 18:09

If people don't care about you including a moment to remember your son on your wedding day? Anyone who feels like that shouldn't be invited to your wedding in the first place.

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TheNobodies · 29/05/2013 18:23

True. My mum has never been a happily ever after person and everytime I bring up marriage her face goes blank... then thats the end of it.

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MadBusLady · 29/05/2013 19:48

Oh I have something in my eye here.

Congratulations!

I'm sorry to hear your mum isn't supportive though.

BabylonReturns · 29/05/2013 22:23

I have pm'd you TheNobodies but admittedly without reading the whole thread.

I think it's a a lovely thought to wed on that date and be able to include your son in your day. This day is about you and your STBDH - and I'm afraid anyone who questions that possibly isn't worthy of an invite anyway.

Good luck getting it all sorted, it sounds very lovely already :)

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