Because sometimes I look at Dh and would quite happily never see him again :(
We have been very distant with eachother since a row a few weeks ago, not helped by the fact his working hours start after I've come home so we hardly see each other.
He is a very black/white person. Always has been, I know I'm not going to change him. He shows no emotion. No affection then expects sex on tap. That's my fault actually because I've allowed it to happen.
At the minute it feels like we're housemates.
I work PT, he works FT and we have two school aged children.
I tried to explain to him after the arguement how he made me feel useless, like I contributed nothing to this relationship but then he turned it around to himself feeling under pressure to keep a roof over our heads.
I know none of this makes sense. I do love the person I married, there's but parts of his personality I thought I could live with and realise as times goes on, I'm struggling.
I'm a very sociable person, he's extremely quiet. I love talking to people, learning new things, he's happy to stay indoors, just us and never change anything. I was 16 when we met and he was 19, I don't know if we've grown up or grown apart.
His family are all hermits, his parents live a stones throw away from us. They light a fire every day and stay indoors, they're in their 50s for christ sake, hardly ancient!! They would never dream of popping in and seeing the kids, and if we pop in there we're made to feel like we're not wanted.
My family welcome you with open arms whatever time of day/night with no advance phone call - I get it's just different upbringings but we've been together 15 years, why is it becoming too much for me now?
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Is it common to feel very little for someone after 15 years of marriage? (long sorry)
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TiredAndTroubled · 26/05/2013 13:34
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