I have finally left him. I feel strange.

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Ive had an arsehole of a partner for the past 4 years. This will be long.

Got a DD who is 4 and im pregnant with my second who is due in 3 weeks time.

Hes cheated loads throughout the relationship, smashed my confidence to peices, I've no self esteem left and just feel like a shell.

I've been trying to finish things for a while but I've always found a reason to give him another chance. I've always blamed myself for his cheating and disinterest in our relationship. I've suspected for a while that he's been cheating again and I can't prove it but the gut feeling has been enough for me to 'detach' myself from him the past few weeks. He goes out to the pub every night and some nights doesn't even come home. Not ideal when I'm heavily pregnant.

Went out for a meal tonight (his suggestion even though I knew he had plans to go out tonight) and i drove us there because I passed my driving test last week and the whole way there he criticised everything I done and went on about how awful I was at driving. Personally, I think i done really well on a motorway for the first time and for my first time being in a car without an instructor. According to him, I'm awful for driving with DD and bump when I obviously have no idea what I'm doing. I spent the whole meal listening to him complaining and he was really nasty to DD, had her in tears.

I dropped him off at the pub, came home, packed his stuff and took it to him in the pub, dumped it at his feet and told him not to bother coming home again because I've had enough and I mean it. His friends found this hilarious but i dont care. I've got his keys so he can't come home and i dont think he will. He is a 37 year old child.

I am going to be fine as a single parent. I will give my children the best life possible without him. If he wants to maintain contact then that's fine but we will never be able to compete with a pub and a different woman every night.

I am going to start counselling and have some time being single until I sort myself out. I'm looking forward to the future and thank you to everyone on here that has taken the time to give me advice the past few weeks.

Im really glad you've done this - I remember posting on both your previous threads. Now DON'T let the disrespectful, joy-sucking, cheating, piss-taking bellend worm his way back in!

Congratulations,I think your fab.

The 'strange' feeling you are getting is RELIEF and POWER and DIGNITY.

Congratulations. :)

Now please retune your bullshit radar to maximum, because he is going to wheedle

He turned up this morning just expecting to walk back in the door and for us to return to normal.

I didn't let him in and handed him another bag of clothes that I'd (cut) bagged up last night.

He looked a bit annoyed but he walked away and I know from his facebook that he's in the pub again so im just hoping he doesn't come back later drunk.

No matter how much it hurts it's going to be better for me and DCs in the future and I can't wait to be happy again

Well done you for getting rid of the man child.

Sounds like it was the straw that broke the camels back.

By waltzing back it just shows how little he thinks of your character. He assumes you're weak and pathetic and lack resolve. Now you've shown him you aren't. Keep your door locked tonight.

Bloody well done. As my dear grandmother said when she resigned from her job at Lyons Corner House, "I've lived before and I'll live again. Stick your job up your arse, I'm off!"

Fuck him. Well obviously don't. Not ever again. But bloody well done.

Boody huge well done from me as well.

You are being a brilliant role model for your DD as to what is acceptable and unacceptable in a relationship.

Do not answer the door if he turns up again and call the police if needed. You have asked him to leave twice, if he shows up again it can be considered harassment.

Well done!

Yay! Good for you! I read your other posts. You are worth so much more than him. He is a wank stain on the hanky of mankind!

Well done !!

Well done!

Well done bowling. Stay strong. Your children are going to grow up with a great mum who can show them that their needs come first. Every time.

If he does crawl back later all drunk and mouthy, call the police and have him moved on. You don't need that stress.

Not only have you got rid of the bell-end but you have also shown your DD that women do not have to stay in shitty relationships just to "have a man".

Bowling you bloody star! I'm in awe of you.

Totally, utterly well done for finding the strength. You sound so positive about the future - and rightly so. Counselling will be great for you too.

I'm only wish my Dsis would find half of your strength. She's been in a terrible EA relationship with her alcoholic DH for 20 yrs. She's only let the truth of her day to day life 'slip' to me once in that time (although we all know what her DH is like). They live abroad so hide it well. She stays for the dcs who are in International private school. I'm hoping beyond hope that she leaves one day

You're an inspiration bowling xx

Really well done. You are now on a long journey to a much better place. Won't always be easy but your confidence will grow week by week and you will find so much in it to make you happy. You have changed your future and your dc's future for the better. Keep posting, there may be some low points which we may be able to help with, but I'm really delighted for you.

well done!

his friends may gave e been laughing because they thought he was getting what he deserved. if they have any decency they will have been wondering wtf he was doing in the pub all the time.

it is tough being an LP. but it easier without the child that is never going to grow up undermining you all the time.

good luck

Bloody well done!!

Your kids will thank you for this one day!

You will be happy again. You're amazing! And parenting & life is so much easier without an arsehole for a partner.