DH kicked me while I was carrying DS, I fell and dropped DS (he is fine but I'm pretty sure my ankle is broken as I've broken it before).
DH flipped because I went to the shop while he and DS were napping and when I came back and found them both awake I said please don't sulk. t's not been great for a while but I would never think he would do that, he adores DS and I wouldn't believe he could do something so stupid that could have really hurt him.
I don't know what to do, I've told DH to leave and he has gone to his parents but he didn't take any of his stuff so I can only assume he will want to come back tomorrow. I haven't contacted the police, I don't want to jeopardise his job and as I'm a SAHM I rely on his income.
Can men change after a violent outburst? Is there any coming back from this? We have been together 7 years and its the first time he has even shouted at me let alone been violent.
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DH kicked me, wtaf do I do now?
TotallyKerplunked · 23/05/2013 23:00
TotallyKP firstly sorry this is happening to you 
what a total headfuck.
the first thing that jumped out if your op at me was that he was sulking because you had gone out. why? you seemed to accept this which suggests that he has conditioned you to normslise what is not normal behaviour. he sounds emotionally abusive. and now he has escalated to physical abuse. probably because his sulking was not having the desired effect and you actually had the temerity to expect him to actually do some child care 
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even if i am reading too much into your remark, fact remains he kicked you.
on top of that he has left you alone with dc with you needing medical attention and he has done nothing about it.
a genuinely concerned remorse filled person would have sent someone to help you even if it meant them having to admit what they had done.
stuff him. stuff his job. this is literally intolerable. if you let him away with this it gets worse.
you will survive without him and without his income. it might be tough but not as tough as bringing your kids up in an abusive household. although i don't think he will lose his job (in which case CSA) but he should definitely lose his wife over this.
log it with the police. get medical help. (it really is not that big a deal in the longer term if ds loses some sleep so you can go to hospital. call an ambulance)
if you cannot leave h immediately, then start thinking about your options and planning.
you may find some useful links in the emotional abuse support thread as I suspect when you say things have been bad that is the kind of bad it is. they are very friendly they give good advice and lots of support and will hand hold you through this.
no matter how much money h earns it is not worth sweeping this under the carpet for. not for you. not for the dcs.
and if you do leave/ kick him out you are entitled to his financial support without having to accept abuse with it. no matter what he says, he did this to you and to ds. and you are not to blame in anyway.
stay strong. hope ankle is ok. 
((hug))
Oh you poor thing please please go to the police. Your son cannot grow up thinking this is acceptable.
I hope you mend well and get police help.
So, if I'm reading correctly, you went to the shops while both your DH and your DS were asleep.
Because you were at the shops rather than at home, when your DS woke, your DH had to wake to get up to him.
When you returned, you realised that your DH had been made to get up to your DS and you knew that your DH would be unhappy with that?
You asked him 'not to sulk' and he, instead of sulking, kicked you so hard that you dropped your DS and have a chipped bone and damaged tendon
I'm not sure where you can go from here. That is a serious assault.
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