Job offer away from MM

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I have had an affair with a MM at work - I don't need anybody to tell me what a mistake this was. I'm deeply deeply sorry and full of remorse - trust me, I am. Last week I got offered a new job over 100 miles away from my life (I am single, but my friends and family are here). I know I should take it and make the break from MM but him aside, I have been there over 10 years and love my job/colleagues etc. Are these reasons enough to stay? Should I make the clean break and leave my job since my actions have left me no choice? Haven't I sacrificed enough for this guy - i.e. my entire moral core?

I know I don't deserve your help, but would be extremely thankful for any advice.

Bollocks, love. If you have to speak to him about professional matters that is one thing. To still be engaging with him emotionally and giving him the opportunity to make it clear he'd still like to be continuing your affair is quite another.

The best move you could make is to stop lying and making excuses for yourself

Nobody has your arm up your back (unless he is blackmailing you professionally) to make you listen to his attempts to stay in your knickers

AF, it is incredibly difficult but I catch your drift. To be clear, I'm not sat there swooning with love hearts instead of eyeballs and have tried very hard to maintain professional distance but he always brings it back round to relationship talk.

You don't have to engage with him when he tries it

Get up and walk away, switch off your phone, close down the laptop

Excuses

Report him if he is harassing you (or at least threaten it...he will run like the wind)

AF is right. If he even sniffs a harassement case he will leg it as the last thing he will want is his wife asking why he has been suspended!