were do i start?
I was married all through my 20s, have a young ds and divorced my exH on grounds of 2 yrs separation. Just before i started the ball rolling with divorce I met new P. Its been a hellish 2 yrs. Started as "fun" (on my part anyway) did not want anything serious, thought we had a lot in common, both married and divorced sons similar age etc..
I had an unplanned pregnancy with him, however had a miscarriage. Lots of warning signs early on, he hurt his ex wife (mentioned in divorce) and unfortunately, he later hurt me.. pinned me to the bed. Anyway, I tried to move past it and "underneath" do love him. We have parted many times and got back together. Problem being, he doesnt give me any space, he cannot enjoy anything with planning something else straight away, constant texting etc and i cannot keep up with him, he takes offence if i dont reply and questions my every move. He HATES me going out and i have felt controlled. Ive ended it again. His ex-wife stopped contact with his son when she found out i was pregnant, he didnt work for a while due to depression however this has landed him in a lot of debt. I simply do not feel i can take all of this on. I love him, but obviously not enough. My head says NO. But... my heart.
He says after 2 yrs he wants commitment, would expect it, I just cant. So I have ended the relationship again. I feel like i have wasted my time trying to support him. Am I being unreasonable here?