Me and other half got together 8 years ago. I have 2 children of 14 and 11 from previous relationship which ended as we got together (although not because we got together, just looking back I shouldn't have rushed into this) and we have a 4 year old together.
I'm going to bullet point a lot of this in the hope I can make it a little less long winded but over the past year or so I have slowly discovered that many, many things that he told me were total lies. Things from when we were first talking before we got together, so deliberately set out to deceive me. I suspected a few things for a while but gradually more and more came to light.
A lot of this, most of it actually, the actual facts are so stupid, there was no need to lie. He admits he doesn't really even know why he did it, some to make himself sound better or more interesting.
- Told me he went to boarding school from a very young age, to the extent of showing me the school, appearing upset when we pass it (not local) as it brought back bad memories, telling me things which happened there.
(He went to local comp, with his sister)
- Telling her owned his house, parents sometimes visited when we were there but I didn't think much of it as they weren't there all the time.
(Their house, not his)
(No. But he was so keen to convince me of this he bought cap badge/pt shirt and bits off eBay)
(No - unless you count the one from "university of buy your degree online")
I can't even remember what else to be honest, oh, emailing me from an address bobisnaughty@...... (his name, not Bob!) which apparently was as he needed to set up a new one to be round some software registration thing. Yeah, obvious choice there.
So it's been about 9 months since the big confrontation where I had enough but I still can't move on. I can't believe anything he ever has or ever does say and just can't decide if I ever will.
I've realised nobody can really advise but in a strange way it's good to tell someone as its very difficult in real life.