been on here alot recently. basicly i have finally had enough of being on my own with dcs and doing everything myself while my h works, watches tv or plays at computer. i have had a few conversations with him these last few months before i went to a solicitor, i said i had had enough, said i would not be here for much longer, said i couldnt continue like this, said i would not remain his wife for much longer. he did nothing about any of these chats we had, i withdrew and got on with life with the dcs. i have now started divorce proceedings, he told me last night that he thought i was stressed about other things when i spoke to him before and did not really listen to what i was saying, he did not think i meant what i was saying and was basicly taking out things on our relationship and giving it a good battering because other things were annoying me. this is not true, i have been very unhappy and was trying to talk to him so we could perhaps move on, i was not making anything up. he has not been very happy because he does not get sex, hasn;t done for a few months now because i cant, not when everything else is so wrong, he cant see that either, he sees the physical side as very important and from what i can see as long as he is getting that he sees no problem:( he has withdrawn too now and blames me for that because i apparently push all the wrong buttons and force him into himself:(( very confused, any advice much appreciated, thank you for reading