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How do I stop being so selfish

37 replies

grumpyoldbat · 15/05/2013 08:33

I am so annoyed with DH and feel totally let down this week. I realise I am being very selfish but I am struggling with these feelings. How do I stop myself being so selfish?

It was his brothers big birthday this weekend so I drove us all across country to stay at his mum's so we could go, I did this after working late shift the night before. DH's friends called him and invited him out on the Friday. I said to go as he hardly sees them but to remember we were going to the birthday do on the Saturday.

Well he enjoyed himself so much he felt sick all day Saturday and had a headache. I tried to give him painkillers, made him toast, brought him glasses of water and sent him back to bed for a nap. However he still refused to go on the Saturday night. I was so embarrassed all night apologising for him and his brother is upset. A few people came back to his Mum's afterwards but he sat upstairs and I almost had to drag him down to speak to his brother.

On Sunday I had to keep the peace when he took a strop over the time of Sunday lunch. Incidentally the same time it has been for as long as I've known him.

Yesterday he was still funny about eating as he's still feeling delicate (from Friday night FFS). He did promise he would get up with DD this morning though as I have the long drive home today. Well guess who's been up for hours and guess who's boody well still in bed. Oh and guess who will have to do the unpacking, dusting etc to prepare for the visitors we have coming on Thursday.

I am just so tired and pissed off.

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QuintessentialOHara · 15/05/2013 10:11

Actually, how come HE is not driving?

letseatgrandma · 15/05/2013 10:13

Is he normally like this? Either there is a huge issue that's making him suddenly behave like this or he's always like it and you need to massively change how you react.

Branleuse · 15/05/2013 10:32

hes on a comedown I reckon. not a hangover

boomoohoo · 15/05/2013 10:39

you do realize you have a teenage son (and an arsehole one at that) and not an adult partner?

Im sorry you feel you need to put up with this and deserve this. you really truly dont.

Please be very selfish towards yourself from now on, and please do question why you think his behaviour is ok. It shocks me how some relationships are still so unequal in this day and age.

letseatgrandma · 15/05/2013 15:07

I hope you aren't still there, OP?!

Crinkle77 · 15/05/2013 15:20

YANBu he is the selfish one and why was it up to you to keep the peace? His parents should have bollocked him.

babyradio · 15/05/2013 17:44

I don't see any selfishness from you in this. Do you feel selfish purely for being hurt by his (ridiculous) behaviour?

I'm sorry, he sounds like a nightmare.

Yargg · 15/05/2013 17:50

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AThingInYourLife · 15/05/2013 17:54

"Cogitoergo has an agenda against men, and is obviously embittered and burnt out"

:o

kittybiscuits · 15/05/2013 18:01

Lol yargg you having a little bit of entertainment on Mumsnet this afternoon, aren't you? Are you bored? Why don't you immac your hands?

Walkacrossthesand · 15/05/2013 20:05

Cogito's posted loads of good stuff. With all due respect Yargg Grin you've posted 6 posts, 2 already deleted and the rest snarky. That's all I'm going to say. Smile

Walkacrossthesand · 15/05/2013 20:06

Right. Yargg's gone. Are you still there OP?

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