Vanilla

[FlatsInDagenham]

I like sex. A lot. But I like it straight. I don't find that boring. If I try to be more experimental, I don't feel as turned on. In fact, I find the idea of a lot of extra stuff - like role play, s&m, anal - a total turn off.

My favourite position is missionary, although I do like some other positions (all within the vanilla spectrum).I need to be comfortable and relaxed in order to orgasm. And I do orgasm every time, and it doesn't take me very long to get there. I really do love sex this way.

My question is twofold:

1. Am I the only one? I see some threads on here and it makes me wonder. If you're vanilla and proud, please tell me.

1. DH and I have talked about this and he says he is perfectly happy. He certainly seems to enjoy it as much as I do and he never suggests anything out of our usual repetoire. Should I trust that he really is ok with this? Again, I read threads on here and I wonder if DH has stuff he fantasises about but won't tell me because he knows what I like. I'm not bored but I worry that he could get bored.

Flats

Agree with Lovehoney suggestion,its fabulous.

TMI alert:

We have a collection of the little personal vibes,the anatomically shaped ones have never done it for me but the vibrating rings are also good fun.

"Should I trust that he really is ok with this? "

Have you discussed it? If your DH is a decent man he's not going to push you into anything you're not comfortable with but have you ever specifically asked...'is there something you've always fancied trying?' It could be that there is nothing at all, it could be something fun and do-able, it could be something that makes you go and you draw the line. Same vice versa... if you'd like to use a vibrator a 'how about it?' conversation when the mood is right could keep things interesting.

I too enjoy ordinary, vanilla, missionary position, sex most of the time. it is comfortable, and nice.

We do explore. I sometimes dress to please,and sometimes I enjoy bumsex and other play, but we always come back to enjoying vanila sex.There is nothing wrong with that at all

I'm the same, I love sex but I like him to just get on top of me and shag me - it's not boring, I just find it a total turn on being underneath him in that way and him having all the power - call me weird if you like but it turns me on.

We became a little experimental last night and he asked me to try this new position, I did and he enjoyed it. I enjoyed pleasing him (so enjoyed the sex) but didn't orgasm ... that's ok however, I don't need to orgasm everytime. Afterwards I asked him what his favourite position was (we've only been together a year and are only just starting to be more open about such stuff!) and he surprised me by saying missionary was his favourite :D

Sex imitates life. In life some people are adventurous some less so, it's the same with sex. I do however feel that the length of your relationship as well as the frequency in which you dtd has a bearing too otherwise things will stagnate and somewhere down both could loose interest. As long as you are both happy then that's all that matters.

Vanilla is my favourite and always has been! I go through short phases of liking raspberry ripple and stracciato but it doesn't last long. And I've never understood the fuss about Neapolitan. I'm currently into the Vermonster by Ben and jerrys but vanilla is always my favourite and I can't get enough of it!

With or without the flake?

Nothing I like better than yanking all our boring clothes off & getting straight down to it

'Vanilla' will never bore me, as it's guaranteed to do the job & doesn't involve faffing about with outfits/rope/toys etc etc. Anything that involves stopping 'the flow' for a second & I can't be arsed

Having a child under 5 hardly makes you feel brimming with energy either does it?

Had four hours sleep? I know what'll help. Spend ages faffing about with a sex swing!

More 'sleeping from the chandeliers' than swinging

You are happy

Your h is happy

Where is the problem ?

Stop comparing yourself to others. I don't believe Half of what I read on here anyway

Those that yap about it, ain't getting it IMO

Oh and sex lives, like most things that are personal, should never be compared...

You'll give yourself a complex!