Brave bad-mum starting a conversation!

[SarahSparkles]

A nice relationship discussion. :)
Myself and my husband have been accused of not being very "close" because we are not very tactile or loved up in public. I don't feel that I need to display my feelings for the benefit of anyone else, but at the same time I'm not embarrassed about doing it either.

I do feel that amongst our friends we have some very overly tactile couples who can make other people feel uncomfortable being around them.
To me the need to be in permenant physical contact comes across as insecurity. As if they need to make their mark on the other person, and let everyone else know they are taken.

As far as I'm concerned if someone wants to try it on with myself or Steven thats up to them, I have no problems saying I'm not interested and I have every faith in him to do the same.

Some of our friends say I'm way off the mark, and that we are too cold towards each other in public to be a "good" couple. But if he was all over me in that way I'd feel like he was being possesive not protective! (and I'm not really into protective men either)

So what do you think? Is being very tactile in public posessive, protective, natural or just unnecessary?

each to their own - if your comfortable tell other to fuck off. however if your asking thequestion for reassurance i think you need maybe to loom a little deeper

i always hold dhs hand and i do arse grope very occasionally. this has nothing to do with anyone else - we hand hold as a sign of affection for one another - i arse grope becuase i want to get in his pants later.

Thanks custy the voice of erason!I agree it is nothing to do with anyone else what we do as a couple I certainly don't need reassurance it is just a natural thing I think to call it territory marking is an insult

Who the hell are these people that they are telling you how to behave with your dh? Sitting on someones kneee in public and groping during normail conersation is fucking sad ..unless you are 15 or very drunk!

I'm back again. :)

It was the overly gropey stuff I was finding wierd, not touching in general. I wasn't trying to start a row here!

I do kiss my hubby in public, we do occasionally hold hands. But we still function as seperate people as well. What I mean is, he can talk to one person, and I will talk to a different one on the other side of the room, and not be constantly worrying about where he is and what he is up to. I don't need to be hanging off his arm like a limpet.
But because we are not inseperable we have been accused of not being as "in love" as other couples.

I have felt very insulted by women who seem to think I'm going to try to steal their partners. I hate cheating. End of story! And I'm happily married. So i sort of resent the implication I can't be trusted. But also feel that even if i was after the gguy, surely if he is any kind of decent bloke he would just say no. So why doesn't she trust him to do that? It doesn't make sense to me!

I only asked the question out of curiosity really.
To see if anyone else had similar thoughts to me, and to hear the other side of the story.

I actually find that Dh is more affectionate to me when in public.(not that he is a cold fish by any stretch of the imagination This i find strange, but i dont see the need for hime to hold my hand etc.Though different BC. At functions we never sit together as we both feel the rare chances we get to go out with friends or meet people we need to take full advantage of differnet converstations.

My sister and her boyfriend are all over each other constantly, it totally grosses me out. Always walking into a room and they are in a clinch or, having to say scuse me to get round them superglued together it's like the matched.com adverts! GEDAROOM! My DH and I I consider to be very tactile, happy to give him a hug and a kiss with other people around, but we aren't gooey and we would never openly snog in a restaurant or pub or the like. And as for criticising other couples, how very dare they?

friends of ours are a bit like this...REALLy irritating, trying to have conversation with one of them and suddenly the other one is right there and kissing his ear or something and then he truns to her and there goes the conversation! FFS! And they aren't drunka nd they aren't 16 years old and they haven't only just started to see each other and tehrefore aren't caught up in the novelty of it all!!!!