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How can i meet a nice guy??

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SummersComing1111 · 13/05/2013 21:56

I need advice, iv been single since september since getting out of DV relationship and its took along time to calm down!

Iv been on one date since then and it went well but hes now gone away to work aborad in magaluf, so not going to happen!

I hate to admit that i am lonely but i am its just me and DS not alot of support of support, i would love to leave someone nice and caring but i dont know how i ever will, i dont go out and having many friends well i have and she is in a relationship and doesnt go out so even i i could go out i would be going on my own witch isnt an option!

If you have any advice id really appreciate it i just feel like very much on my own with no hope

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SummersComing1111 · 13/05/2013 22:13

As i thought, its impossible

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currentlyconfuseddotcom · 13/05/2013 22:18

Summer I'm in practically the same situation! I think it just takes time. There's no rush, try to build up a new support network.

ecclesvet · 13/05/2013 22:19

Have you tried online dating?

MsBuzz · 13/05/2013 22:25

online dating is great fun and really boosts your self-esteem. Be honest, hope that they are honest, and keep your eyes wide open. Use one of the larger sites so that there is plenty of men to choose from in your area. You could try a free site but you might not get men who are serious about meeting a mate - they are possibly more serious about it if they have to part with some money.
I did it for 2 years, met lots of men, had a great time and went on some interesting dates, and then met my current partner who I am now living with (aahhh!). Good luck!

OhWesternWind · 13/05/2013 22:28

Summer there's a very friendly dating thread where you'd be very welcome, could ask any questions there.

VelvetSpoon · 13/05/2013 22:29

If you do online dating you'll meet men.

Unfortunately most all of them won't be nice.

You need a thick skin, masses of self-esteem and a good radar for spotting twats and red flags (which the majority of them have in abundance).

It can take years to meet anyone decent. Sometimes I think you have as much chance of bumping into someone in the street as you do finding them online...it really is a needle in a haystack scenario!

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SummersComing1111 · 13/05/2013 22:29

I tried POF and someone sent me a picture of the penis so i deleted it !!

I could try an paid one if they are not to expensive !

Iv just realised that nobody is going to knock my door and im not going to meet anyone in mother and toddles haha!

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VelvetSpoon · 13/05/2013 22:30

I was going to add a ps re the Dating thread, but Western has beaten me to it

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SummersComing1111 · 13/05/2013 23:05

I dont know how to move the post :/

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VelvetSpoon · 13/05/2013 23:51

No need to move it!

But if you want to pop onto the dating thread (no pressure btw, but don't be daunted by the fact it's a long running thread, new people join all the time!) here is the thread Hopefully that link will work! and ask any questions about dating in general, whether it be online or otherwise. You would be very welcome :)

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