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Think he's had sex with someone else

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LaurenP · 21/05/2006 14:47

I have been totally off sex for the past year or so, put it this way, we bought a pack of 6 condoms at christmas and we still have some left. I just never feel like it and I know it's been bothering him.

Anyway for the past couple of weeks he hasnt tried it on at all, he hasnt seemed bothered. last night however we were discussing how some people have tons of past sexual partners and he turned around and said thoughtfully "I dont even think I'm into double figures yet..." last time we discussed this he seemed to know his 'number' was 8.

At the time I didnt really think, I just said "what do you mean 'yet'?" in a jokey way and his face went bright red and he started stuttering as if he was in deep panick and said "I didnt realise I'd said that...I dont even know why I did.." but he make a huge deal out of it, looking back he was acting as if he'd just said something that had given the game away.

What do you reckon? Am I reading too much into an innocent comment?

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WelshBoris · 21/05/2006 14:47

and another one

how bored are you?

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LaurenP · 21/05/2006 14:47

sorry?

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WelshBoris · 21/05/2006 14:48

youre a troll love

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LaurenP · 21/05/2006 14:49

Why am I a troll??

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SaintGeorge · 21/05/2006 14:51

Sorry if you are genuine Lauren but we seem to have a spate of strange threads today from new comers.

You have posted only once before and then didn't bother coming back to the thread despite many replies.

IknowDazsManager · 21/05/2006 14:53

I shall watch this thread with interest.

spacedonkey · 21/05/2006 14:53

wtf wb? if you think someone's making it up just don't answer!

Lauren, I'm sorry I don't really have any advice - you need to talk with him I think, ask him straight out maybe? Has his behaviour been suspicious in other ways?

fattiemumma · 21/05/2006 15:07

i agree WB. if you think this person may not be genuine then avoid the post. why run the risk of offending someone who may well have a genuine concern.

I am (now) quite a frequent poster on here but when i first joined i was accused of being a troll and it was over something that i found VERY upsetting ( not thetroll thing, the thing that i had posted asking for advice over)

have no real advice other than yes i think it was probably just an inoccent comment and that you have in your mind some subconcious feelings of guolt over not feeling very sexual recently and that you are concerned he may look elsewhere.

maybe you should concentrate on trying to discover what it is that has made you feel so down about sex so that you and hubby can recindle the spark betwen you

me23 · 21/05/2006 15:09

agree spacedonkey,
it could have ben an honest slip of the tongue, but if you are worried sit hi down and have a chat it's no use you worrying like this.
He might not be 'trying it on' because he knows you have gone off it and doesnt want to keep on at you or keep getting turned down.
I went off sex when I was with my ex I was on the pill and think it lowered my libido, do you know why you're off sex, becuase you should look into it, and get things sorted if you can.

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