what to do?

[secret31]

hi all,

Have changed username, sorry but feel better this way.

I have a 13month old daughter and am expecting my second in dec. My dp is 7 yrs younger than me and I feel that i have made the biggest mistake of my life settling down with him.

He is a good bloke but he is young and foolish, he cant think further than his nose and in fact i have 2 children (incl him) and am expecting my 3rd.

I have already gone off sex with him, i dont even want him to touch me, every single and i mean every single thing he says or does annoys me and i just feel depressed thinking that this is my life from here on in. I also feel a bit bad because he's too simple / thick to realise or understand how i feel.

However he does love me and it would kill him if i left, but i'm so desperately unhappy. I just want to be by myself. He works hard for his family and he does love our daughter but he is the laziest father you have ever seen i have to tell him to play with her, pick her up, ask him to bathe her, nothing simply comes to him and i'm sick of it.

I blame myself because I am older and wiser but its too late for blame now, i just want to get out but how? and should i wait until after i've had second baby? not that he's much help.

Sorry its a tad long.

Oh god someone tell me what to do.

Hate to say it secret - but you're gonna have to face him!

I know he annoys you and you are unhappy with him at the moment, but do you still love him? If the answer is yes, you owe it to your relationship and to your children to sit down with him and have a heart to heart and tell him how you are feeling. If he loves you he may be prepared to take a good hard look at himself and try to make some changes. Can't guarantee it's going to work, but think you should give it a go.
If you honestly believe you don't love him anymore, you owe it to your own happiness to make the break. It's not going to be good for either of your children if their mother is unhappy.
Now I know it's all very well for a total stranger to tell you what to do, but sometimes it takes somebody totally objective to tell you what you already know deep down inside you.