How the heck am i meant to encourgae the kids to eat healthy if dh wont?

[misdee]

he came home for the say today. now he doesnt 'do' veg, wont touch onions, and loads of other stuff. drives me mad. today i cooked a roast and put a [shock horror] roasted sweet potato piece on his plate. He sort of poked it, and said 'i dont like them' (in front of the kids), i asked him to try a bit, he did then gagged and spat it out on his plate. i was fuming. it was extremly rude and disgusting. the girls then refused to try theirs. he said 'i told you i didnt like them' it is as if he is a child. i am fed up of it. its going to be a nightmare when he gets home full-time. dd1+2 never ate any fruit or vegs when he was home, over the last year i have got them to eat carrots, and some fruits. its slow going, but we are getting there. dd1 is slowly getting more adventourgous. she even tried some mango and kiwi fruit the other week, and celery.

When he comes home, i am going to have to treat him like a child arent i? I have said i am not cooking different meals for everyone.

Sorry, but I'm giggling at the poking and "I don't like them".

Yes, you're going to have to treat him like a child :) My FIL is the same - he doesn't do vegetables either.

the thing is, ater his transplant he will be prone to weigth gain, so needs to eat healthy, but he wont. drives me mad.

Actually, they're worse than children aren't they? I don't know the way round it other than for someone else to sit him down and give him a good talking to.

Maybe he'll feel differently after his transplant though - could he be thinking "what's the point" at the moment maybe?

he has always been like this. i had forgotton how much it annoys me.

i asked what he did if there was nothing on the menu he liked, he said he has cheese and ham ommlettes then. he never adds veg to his meals there, and will pick out the carrots etc out of stews.

what a pita ! Seriously though there are bound to be things that you now have your way of doing and handling with the girls , having spent so much time as a lone parent, and whilst it will be lovely to have Peter home and part of family life again it is going to be a huge adjustment. He needs to accept that he may have to compromise too, even if it is just having a tiny portion of veg on his plate and not making a fuss of it, whether he eats it or not, or "sharing" some chopped fruit in a bowl (the girls can do most of the eating !).