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Telling me what to wear in bed

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YorkshireQueen · 20/05/2006 20:14

if your dp told you not to wear anything for bed would you do what he said? I have always had trouble sleeping completely naked but I do occasionally make the effort when DP stays over (we dont live together) and go to bed with nothing on.

I dont like doing it though and do normally wear either a silky short nightie or silky short pyjamas but last week when DP stayed over he was in a mood over it saying I didnt 'do anything for him' looking like that in my 'grandma pyjamas' and said he wanted me to sleep naked when he was there. I agreed but after thinking about it, why the hell should I do what he wants when it makes me uncomfortable?

What would you do?

OP posts:

AprilMum · 22/05/2006 13:11

I'll be very happy to please my husband (he rarely asks for something specific). I know he would fall asleep when everything is over and then I put on my pj. I cannot sleep without a top or a bra that holds boobs in place.

moondog · 22/05/2006 13:11

Lol LTH.
You are very repressed....you haven't lived until you scratched a naked itchy bum,girl!

CappucinoInABadMood · 22/05/2006 13:17

tell him to buy you some pyjamas that he does like if he's not happy

and constantly remind him to pull his stomach in when you're around him cos you like tight abs

Xavielli · 22/05/2006 13:30

i thought that the "taking the granny pj's off" bit was the exciting part .... it is for my DP... you take the mystery away to see what is underneath

Do what you feel comfortable with, I like to sleep nekkid,I put me jimmiejams on before and after, if anyone tried to tell me to do otherwise I think i'd flip

SSSandy · 22/05/2006 13:34

I can't sleep with clothes on, just too uncomfortable for me. I wear pants though. If someone told me to wear something in bed, I might try it. But if I then ended up not getting to sleep, I wouldn't perservere with it.

If the "results" were brilliant though, I would reconsider it... How about a compromise, something but not a granny pj, say a silky little top and pants?

LadyTophamHatt · 22/05/2006 13:54

LOL moondog

I'll stay repressed then thanks very much

moondog · 22/05/2006 13:58

You won't get that 4th baby by keeping your jammies on girl....

GDG · 22/05/2006 14:01

Can't have been that much of a barrier eh LTH?!

LadyTophamHatt · 22/05/2006 14:06

LOLOLOL

My Pj's got straight back on afterwards I'll have you know!!

ameli · 16/07/2006 23:02

i guess it could work wonders for your sex life, no pjs

HappyDaddy · 17/07/2006 10:13

What's the point in doing as he wants, if it's uncomfortable? You're hardly going to be in the mood, are you? Tell him that if you sleep naked he has to wear a wetsuit.

Piffle · 17/07/2006 10:20

Say well I do not fancy you naked either but I've learned to live with it

Piffle · 17/07/2006 10:22

FWIW because of ds being 12 and often poppping into our room in the morning with a cuppa for me and dp, I tend to wear a strappy vest top and boxer shorts for modesty purposes... I also get up to tend to dd in the night so it makes sense
If we're needing to be naked for any reason I simply go to bed with it off then pop it on afterwards.
Agree with teh scrathcy bits thing too, seen too many grubby sheets(not mine I hasten to add) to not wear pants in bed

Feistybird · 17/07/2006 10:23

would tell him to eff off. I wear what I like in bed (which happens to be nothing) but when it's freezing cold, if I want PJs, I wear PJs.

Greensleeves · 17/07/2006 10:23

I'd tell him to stick it up his jacksie and swivel. Personally.

Spagblog · 17/07/2006 10:28

Moondog, that has to be quote of the week.

LOL

DH refers to my nighty as a "sack" as it is more of a fleece lounger thingy than a nighty, but we're an old married couple.

If a boyfriend tried to dictate what I wore because "I didn't do anything for him" I would stick to my guns and tell him to put up or shut up

joelallie · 17/07/2006 13:05

Tell him to get stuffed! He can dictate your nightwear only when he ensures he is always totally clean and shower fresh when he comes to bed, he NEVER has smelly feet, he is shaved (no-one likes bristle rash anywhere and he wears your choice of nightwear.

hulababy · 17/07/2006 13:09

Where what YOU want to. He should love you for who you are and not want to change you. If you don't feel comforatble you're hardly going to be in the mood for anything else anyway.

I like my PJs in bed. Not into sleeping naked any more!

oxocube · 19/07/2006 19:13

don't think him taking the huff is very acceptable but do think that you could take this as a sign of him really loving your body/fancying you. Thats how I would see it anyway.

valuta · 19/08/2006 10:56

Is your house very cold?

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