Calling me lazy and being bossy

[MrsData]

Yesterday my partner came to school with me to pick up by DD, its the first time he's been. My usual routine is to get to school for around 2:40pm, sit in the car listening to the radio until 3pm and then go and pick DD up as the doors open. Yesterday however DP said at 2:45 "right come on, lets go and stand over there..." I said I didnt want to as a) I hate standing around for ages and b) I dont like the whole "playground mums brigade" so he got quite nasty and said "COME ON" in an 'authoritive' voice and when I said no he went in a mood saying I was so "f*cking lazy" and unsociable .

A couple of nights ago he was playing on the playstation and suddently turned around to me and said "go and get me a drink" but again in a very authorative voice, we have only been together a few months but his bossy attitude is getting worse, should I just laugh it off or would this piss you off?

I would nip it in the bud now and tell him you don't like being talked to in that manner. As it is a relatively new relationship if you don't sort it now (or if he would amend his behaviour) you'll end up splitting or worse staying with a possible bully

I think you know the answer to this one!

no brainer as far as i'm concerned, sit him down and talk to him about it now and if his behaviour doesn't change end it before you get any more involved, and before he tries this crap with your dd, it's important she see that her mother won't tolerate being treated in such a way

You don't want your dd growing up thinking that this is how it's normal for men to treat women.

FWIW, just in case you were wondering if that's how everyone is treated by their partner and the rest of us just put up with it, no it's not. Bossing women around in that way is NOT normal, it's not acceptable and there is no way on earth you should put up with it.