There's no way to force someone you love to stop smoking, is there?

[JamesJazz]

Can anyone tell me what I can do to at least slightly increase the chances?

Ahhh, Bunbaker, so devastating to watch someone you love suffering like that and fading before your eyes, and being so helpless.

I remember vividly when my mum could not get up the stairs in our own home and had to sleep on the sofa, but could always manage a long, slow and painful trip to the corner shop for a crafty fag!!

E cig, yes. I smoked heavily and gave up on 14 feb not touched a real cig since. Ironically I still get disaproving looks sometimes from people when out. I think the more you tell someone to stop the more resentful they become

My mother used to train smoking cessation workers. She said the first thing they needed to establish was whether the person was genuinely motivated to stop, because it's a powerful addiction and they can't without that.

My husband stopped when we married, because I am too asthmatic to have anyone smoke in the house, and the hassle of going outside all the time was too much. But he hasn't got an addictive personality, I don't think, and is unusual in not being physically addicted.

Depends on the person's personality. My partner smoked when we met and then we discovered we were having a baby so he made the decision to quit. He quit for nearly entire pregnancy then slipped back near to birth. I know he will give up again in time when he is ready and that is ok with me - However - I would never ever press him because his personality is to rebel against anyone telling him to do something. Think many men are a bit like this. HELL - I'm like this! If someone told me to go on a diet i wouldn't. I would when I was fed up of being fat.

For those of you on the e cig,( I haven't researched it yet), is the idea that you will eventually give this up too? If not, and you still get the nicotine high, is it "fake" nicotine, ie manufactured to give you the high without the damage?

TIA.

Am desperate to get my dp to give up, but I know I mustn't go on at him....

Its not nicotine which does the damage (think caffine) its just a stimulant.

It is the carcinogens and tar which cause the damage.

My e-cig came with a high nicotine cartridge and i will be reducing to medium then low as time goes on before hopefully giving up all together, having said that i do love having a fag so may remain a vaper for the rest of my life and im not hurting anyone (or myself) in the process.

Thanks Boosterseat. I thought nicotine was damaging too, as well as the tar etc, so there's something I have learned!