Would you go on a date with a man who used the term "bunny boiler"?

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So I met a guy on the internet, he seemed quite nice so we arranged to meet for a drink. I asked for his mobile no so I could text him when I got to the pub. He seemed quite reluctant to give it to me and when I asked why, he said it was in case I turned out to be a " bunny boiler" I bloody hate that phrase and told him I didn't want to meet a guy who regarded women like that. Of course he was v apologetic but I didn't meet him. What do other people think,was it an overreaction or a red flag?

send him a message saying 'that is the fifth message you have sent, are you a bunny boiler?'
you never know he might be ok.

If you're not comfy with giving out your mobile number there are ways of saying so without using a phrase that gives off a stench of rancid woman-hater who thinks all women are potential psychopaths. Subsequent behaviour (refusing to take no for an answer: how dare OP reject him?) confirm initial diagnosis...

He resented providing you his number, enabling you to feel safer when you first met......

I think you had a lucky escape.

Why would you go on a date with a man who refused to give you his phone number? How rude! Surely swapping of phone numbers is basic internet dating etiquette. Its not like swapping addresses!

Hes probably married, or living with someone, and doesn't want odd texts at inopportune moments.

Even if not, he lacks basic social skills, and is hystrionic, which are probably going to manifest themselves somewhere down the line.

Didn't the term "bunny boiler" originate from a film where the protagonist had been lied to and duped into having an affair with a married man?

Perhaps he's telling you more than he realises...

definately a red flag, steer well clear

all of the nice guys i've arranged dates with have offered their number before i've had to ask 'see you friday, heres my number incase you need it' that sort of thing

Tanith, the phrase came from the film Fatal Attraction. The protagonist was the married man (Michael Douglas) who had a fling with Glenn Close (bunny boiler).

She wouldn't accept it was over and did a lot of nasty things including boiling the family pet rabbit until eventually she gets drowned in the bath.

Can't believe that film must be over 20 years old now.

WRT to the OP's dilemma. If the follow up messages were suitably contrite, I would probably give him a second chance.

I don't like the term either but tbh if it is on a dating site I agree with him, I have no idea what you can the men who do it, but I've had to change my sim many times due to men calling repeatedly. and just not taking the hint