If you had an ex partner who was having a really hard time

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Would you offer to have them to stay for a while until they got back on their feet?

Not money hard time - health hard time. Friendly break up.

Regular. N/C.

do you want to or feel you must?
why did you split?

Don't feel I must, but want to if I can and if he'll let me. Not going into the reasons we split, but there was no one else involved and no abuse of any kind.

so what makes you ask mn? (meant in a nice way btw although could come across differently!).

Just to see what others would do. I'm a soft touch in general

I think he's a very lucky man to know you.

I made a similar offer once. It was turned down (nicely) due to a number of practical reasons but I meant it at the time and would offer again if it was ever needed. I have to be honest though, in my case it's because the man concerned was the love of my life. I think one of the important things you might need to demand truth from yourself about is how you feel about your ex and how this arrangement, if it goes ahead, will affect your friendship/status with him long term.

And I'll say it again - he's a very lucky man.

Could it potentially be confusing for your/his dc - i.e, thinking/hoping the two of you will get back together?

If so, make sure he knows there is no torch carrying - wouldn't want him to get the wrong idea

I am very very fond of him but he is not and never will be the love of my life.

I do suspect he'll turn the offer down because he is a stubborn bugger.

The stubborn bugger thing resonates loudly.

Some men just don't know when they're onto a good thing, eh?

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You are a very generous person. I am only nipping in to recommend you to set the boundaries, i.e., what will happen, for example, if you start dating another man? Will you ex-DP be happy with this person coming to stay and have sex with you? Will your future date be happy knowing that you are caring for an ex-DP? This situation may severely limit your ability to meet someone and start again.

I hope everything works out!

I know he's not your XH, I was writing my thoughts from my point of view, ie someone that I cared for greatly and would offer help to but was definately not looking to reinstate a relationship with, in my case it is my XH.