Hello Ladies, i no this is probably something that you guys talk about on here but its something thats really worrying me and really stressing me out..kind of ruining my pregnancy in some ways too.
Basically i was in a relationship with someone who was really emotionally abusive always made me feel like crap, thats just the way he was! I ended up falling pregnant, were currently not together and havent been for a few months but its been sort of on an off due to him not understanding boundaries, iv called the police on him a few times since being pregnant due to harrassment, threatening behaviour, turning up at my flat, however nothing has been done about this by the police due to no evidence apprently these things are really hard to proove.. im not scared of my ex partner however i do feel very stressed out about his unwanted behavior i just feel like hes doing everything he can to ruin my pregnancy.. simply because he cant accept the fact that i no longer want to be with him! anyway a few weeks ago he came round again n we started arguing as usual because were literally like cat and dog we just do not get on whats so ever.. he then pulled my hair n slapped me so i called the police thinking that they would do something about this! but no! all they did was bail him for 3 weeks, but then halfway through these three weeks the police came round to my flat and said that they have taken him off bail and released him early because of unsuffiaint evidence and the CPS wont take it further regardless of how many times i have called the police on him before! my ex partner also told the police that I had been constantly been calling HIM on private number which i havent done! basically hes just trying to get me into trouble, the police said that there not going to arrest me for something like that theres just no proof, so anyway what i didint realize was that everytime u report something to the police if its a domestic they report it to social services or child protection, i never knew any of this because iv never been pregnant or had to call the police on someone before, so now i am worried that social services are going to be involved with me which is the last thing i want!!! i havent heard anything from them as off yet, but how will they know if they are invovled will they just come to the hospital when my baby is born or will they write to me or randomly come round? are they even going to get involved? my fustation is killing me especially with all the stress my ex has put me through which has made me call the police who have done nothing at all about it now social services maybe involved!!! im just like oh my god i should have never called the police in the first place all is causes is a load of crap!! the thing is if social services assess me they will see that im fine n i would be a fit parent cos i know that i can be, but my ex partner can make me look so vunerable its unreal he will make stuff up about me and just do anything he can to hurt me so im really worried that ill end up getting the baby taken away from me its just a fear because he always use to threaten me about takin the baby ever since i first got pregnant.. even tho hes caused so much stressed i want things to work out as smoothly as possible for all of us mainly for the baby! so i have sorted out some mediation for us to go to, he hasent been in contact with me for around 3 weeks now which is the longest he hasent called or contacted me in other ways for which is really good and im really happy about that, i just dont no what to do or think im so confused i still dont no weather to let me come to the birth i mean would it be spitefull not to? would that be harsh i mean it is his child but hes made me feel like utter crap for months and months we havent been to mediation yet but i reckon it might be the best thing to do. i just need someone to put my mind a rest please!! thankyouu x