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21 First Date Questions

16 replies

BiscuitMillionaire · 05/05/2013 05:28

This seems like a good idea. What questions would you add?

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ALittleStranger · 05/05/2013 09:14

Some of those questions are common sense and I think you'd struggle to meet someone without asking them.

Others are questions that people resort to when more natural conversation is flagging.

A couple I think are inapproriate for a first date. I would be put out if someone asked me if I took drugs or how many other people I was dating.

deliasmithy · 05/05/2013 09:47

I think if you asked all of these the first time you met someone it would feel like an interrogation.

I find it a bit hilarious about the suggestion that generally differences in pet and holiday preferences should cause someone to rule out the person. Surely its about how important that or any other preference is and whether its negotiable?

badinage · 05/05/2013 13:24

If I were single, at my age chances are the bloke would already have had kids. So I'd be finding out whether he pays his share of their costs and whether he regards himself as a lone parent and not a 'weekend and holidays' Dad. It really boils my piss when a bloke bails out of fathering.

SPsYoniTheOneAndOnly · 05/05/2013 13:31

If someone asked me all those I'd feel uncomfortable. More of an interview then a date

Anniegetyourgun · 05/05/2013 14:01

What questions, where, what?

ClippedPhoenix · 05/05/2013 15:21

Blimey. What a load of twaddle Grin I sure as hell wouldn't want to go on a date with someone who interviewed asked me all that.

A1980 · 05/05/2013 15:42

Don't make a date a job interview. I've had dates like that before it puts an enormous amount of pressure on someone to be questioned non stop rather than letting conversation flow naturally.

I once got bombarded with questions including being asked "are you a challenge". What the hell?! There is no way to answer that question. If you say yes then it's admitting being difficult if you say no then you admit being a push over. I actually asked what they meant by that.

They also asked me about favourites. Favourite food, favourite film, etc. I don't know anyone who gets to know people based on favourites above the age of about 10.

Moanranger · 05/05/2013 16:18

I read this slightly differently. The author suggests these as ice breakers, and never suggests that you ask all of them, as that would clearly be a bombardment.
I like the "How was your day?" Question for the reason she states - find out if they are positive or negative person. I myself also have a tendency to fill in conversational pauses with my own anecdotes, forgetting to ask other person about themselves.
Badinage a good point but could be asked (rather than"are you a crap father?") Something like a series, how many DCs do you have, how often do you see them, and go from there.

tiredofwaitingforitalltochange · 05/05/2013 17:33

Yeah I liked the 'how was your day?' It's a good way to flag up pronto if someone is one of those drainers who will spend the whole time moaning.

ohtobecleo · 05/05/2013 22:42

Surely (in this time of online dating) you'd probably have covered a lot of these on email before actually meeting? This just seems a little dated to me.

WafflyVersatile · 05/05/2013 23:12

I think it would be easy enough to bring some of those into conversation, probably would anyway. Like how was your day. Of course you might just have had a bad day or be having a stressful time at work.

Some it might be harder to fit in to a flowing conversation, even if there is a gap so a change of subject.

''.....aw yeah, we had a cat too, she was adorable. So how do you feel about Palestine?''

WafflyVersatile · 05/05/2013 23:39

Suggested alternatives:

Which is your favourite knee? And why?
What is down the back of your sofa?
Have you ever stopped for a chugger?
What do you argue about most with your mates down the pub?
What pet names have you given exes?
1 dessert each or do you think I'm going to share mine?
Do you actually play the guitar you mention in your profile or is it gathering dust in a corner? (2nd option preferred)
starter or pudding?

badinage · 05/05/2013 23:57

Or you could ask the old favourites...

Blue Peter or Magpie?

Pepsi or Coke?

Steve Ovett or Seb Coe?

Beatles or Stones?

I'll get my coat......

sarahseashell · 06/05/2013 00:06

definitely no second date with a pudding/chips sharer! get your own Grin

Lavenderhoney · 06/05/2013 06:37

Won't someone notice if you have a list with you? I would hate to have been questioned like this when I was dating, I might not have wanted to share quite so much:) and if you do all this at the first date, what on earth do you talk about at the second?

Alad · 06/05/2013 07:16

The author is obviously single.....

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