Hmmmm Dh has decided that he doesnt find me attractive anymore!! Cheeky Sod!

[TambaTheDragonSlayer]

Like he's so bloody gorgeous

you need to go clubbing more...i'll lend you my dancing shoes!

tamba is this the man who doesn't wash,has a cheesy penis,and you never sleep with?
now you say you don't find him attractive,vice versa, you don't enjoy each other's company etc etc.yet you want to saty woith him because it's comfortable?
is this really all you are worth? you are so young. do you want to look back in 20 years time and think ' what a waste!'??

blimey, i thought the cheesy knob comment was just a put down... yuk

Have to say hes been much better hygiene wise since i refused to let him in my bed!

He isnt a bad bloke honestly

Just wanted to say that all is not lost, you might have to initiate the changes, but it is worth it. The dynamics/circumstances in your relationship may have changed but instead of trying to battle the changes, try and grow with it and go with it. ( I know that sounds really really cheesy but its true). Life changes, and we have to learn to go with it too.

i'm not saying he's a bad bloke but you are blatantly unhappy with him. what's the point/ life is too short tamba, way too short.

hey tamba
can see both sides of this as ever for obvious reasons. really suggest that you dont be apathetic too long, is one thing to coast for a while to get things in perspective, but not to make a life of it.
you either decide to reinvent (a ponsy southern term) your marraige - and go for it with everything you can muster. the long term benefits are obvious.
or you gather your thoughts and nerve and face the inevitable. from experience it all depends on one thing - love. if it still lurks somewhere in your marraige then look for it. if it is elsewhere - or can be found elsewhere then look there. and when you find it grab it with both hands and don't let go, no matter what, your happiness is what matters. to try and raise a family in a loveless marraige is a non starter, dont waste your life or your h's.
sorry to lecture, but that seperate lives bit just doesn't work - or at least not for long, so think, be patient and then do something and be very, very happy while you're at it :o

oh - and the unattractive bit!!! what did you do?? marry yourself a blindman??
have seen you and WOW - you are gorgeous babe - very, very fancyable, so no need to pout.

Thanks all :)

Didnt get to talk to dh last night, and havent seen him yet today. We both know we need to talk but I think neither of us wants to admit how things are iyswim.

Talk soon. Start to make changes soon. If you stick with it, dont be put off he doesnt respond straight away.

Remember too that its quite likely you are both hurting deep down.