Does anyone living with a diabetic DP or spouse?

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Just feeling a bit worn down with the moodiness, snapping and general bad behaviour of DP. Tonight he came in from work, snapped at me when I made some fairly innocent comment, and buggered off to bed in a strop.

It's not constant but happens at some point pretty much every night or morning, before he takes his meds. He only got diagnosed last year, and before that I just thought he was being obnoxious. He still can be sometimes but often it's just the sugar levels.

Feeling kind of tired and vulnerable atm as DC2 has been quite ill too, and not sleeping and I've had some sad news myself.

Do you have the same problems with your DP? How do you deal with it? I am trying to be understanding but am fairly worn out by the constant worry that he might just fly off the handle.

My DSIS (whom I no longer speak to) is type 1 diabetic and her moods were bloody awful. He needs to control himself. Diabetes is not an excuse for being a shit. BTW, can I suggest following the paleo diet for diabetes - it's much better than the NHS recommended one and if his blood sugars are more even, it may help his behaviour.

I do! Is he type 1? My dp is and its not easy at times He is like a totally different person when he's out of balance and its so hard not to take it personally when he says anything unreasonable or hurtful. All I can do to help, is try hard to (tactfully!) remind him to test his blood and inject, although if he is already high, its about as well received as someone asking me if my period is due when I'm in a pmt mood!

Sorry to not be anymore help, just wanted to say your not alone and hopefully someone wiser will be along soon!

My DP was diagnosed with diabetes may 2012, 2 months after our daughter was born, before we got his medication right he was almost impossible to live with at times. I had PND he had awful moods due to his sugar levels and it almost tore us apart. Even now I can tell when he snaps at an innocent comment I make or just becomes someone I barely recognise if I get him a snack/tell him to eat it changes rapidly. Being pregnant again and trying not to just loose it with him is hard and sometimes impossible but he sees when he gets back to normal that his behaviour changed and I know it isn't him. Basically in that bit of a ramble I really do know what your going through. I would say he may need a review on his meds if it is a constant occurrence as it is a lot rarer now my DP is on the right amount that he has these mood swings, but I have found that I have to wait till he is back to his normal self to bring it up or he just thinks in his mind I am having a go at him. Explaining his behaviour to a willing and listening doctor should tell them that his medication needs review. Hope it helps, I know how hard it can be sometimes when you just want to loose it with them!!

"Diabetes is not an excuse for being a shit."

This. Tell him to take responsibility for his own health and his own behaviour, get medical treatment, advice, monitoring, diet.... whatever it takes. Being a grouch is not acceptable.

My Dad is Diabetic and he can be a bit snappy if unable to take his medication on time or eat. However if this is a common occurrence its often because the medication /food timetable is not working for the person in question or their prescription has changed.

If my Dad gets short with me I pass him a banana.

Does he do a sugar level diary? It would be very helpful for him to take a test pre meal. Ie breakfast,lunch,tea and supper. This will give an idea of what his sugar levels are doing. If it's early morning or late af night he may not be eating enough at supper. Do you know what his levels are in the morning op?

My gmil was diabetic and I cared for her for a while. You couldn't meet a nicer woman until her sugars went out and she could be a right cow. One time she even started talking about herself in the third person. It was freaky! She literally didn't have any control over herself and didn't always remember. However she managed her diabetes in a text book way so your husband may truly not be able to control it.