help please!!!!

[strumpet]

will somebody help me please and talk some sense into me! i'm using a false name here!!! last year i had an affair with a rather attractive looking bit of rough! my DH found out and after a difficult few months has forgiven me and tried to move on. i however am still not sure of what i want or where i want to be! the problem now is that i have recently met and spoken to the third party and now feel even more confused about feelings for my DH and my bit of rough!!! Help please!!!!!

difficult to really give advice. Grass is alway greener and all that i suspose. Fact DH found out he may guess again that you have had contact. When DH found out did you want the marriage to work if so then there is your answer. If you were just feeling guilty then there is alos your answer. Sori if this sound corny but hope it helps

strumpet - your description of the third party as a "bit of rough" suggests to me that they're not a keeper? can you work on putting the thrill into your marriage that you got from your affair?

Only you can work out what you want strumpet.If you want us to say well its o.k for you to have your bit of rough and your husband then your not gonna get it.If you want out then get out and run of with your bit of rough.Don't muck your husband around.You must be very very lucky to have your man forgive you and take you back.Don't repay him by shagging around behind his back again. What were your reasons for the affair in the first place? if you are not happy leave him but don't break his heart all over again.I have been on the receiving end of this and belive me it stinks. I also don't belive in staying with someone that you don't care about either.If you want to make a go of your realationship go to relate or something.Hope you get some better advise than mine xx take care

Either you want to be with your husband or you dont. I agree with cornflake girl - to describe someone as "a bit of rough" doesnt imply that there is much "feeling" there.

where did you go strumpet?