Thinking about leaving my OH of 20 years

[Megansaunty]

I started having panic attacks 18 months ago. I have spoken to a therapist and she thinks its my oh controlling behaviour that causes it. I didn't want to believe it but its true.
He has sucked the life out of me. I have got so used to his negative attitude and the way he speaks to me I have forgotten what normal is.
If he had a million pounds he would want three. He is jealous and insecure.
He looks through my handbag, checks texts on my phone reads my mail.
He is jealous of the relationship I have with my siblings and our kids.
I have told him how I feel. He has said on numerous occasions he will change. It lasts a week.
I don't know how to go about moving forward
Any one?

[wonderingagain]

Megansaunty you are here for perspective. We can give you some perspective+ but i reckon your friends will give you a much clearer picture because they know you and him. Have you talked to them about it?

Brilliant post Cogito. They seem to be so predictable.

[LiveItUp]

OMG Megan - only 46. You have a whole life ahead of you. You need to kick his sorry ass in to touch and go grab it with both hands.

[Squitten]

It's only ever temporary though, isn't it OP? Or has he had a brain transplant that you're aware of?

And your last sentence is the key: "How long before he loses it again". You deserve a life where you don't have to tread on eggshells forever, worried about what might provoke him