Thinking about leaving my OH of 20 years

[Megansaunty]

I started having panic attacks 18 months ago. I have spoken to a therapist and she thinks its my oh controlling behaviour that causes it. I didn't want to believe it but its true.
He has sucked the life out of me. I have got so used to his negative attitude and the way he speaks to me I have forgotten what normal is.
If he had a million pounds he would want three. He is jealous and insecure.
He looks through my handbag, checks texts on my phone reads my mail.
He is jealous of the relationship I have with my siblings and our kids.
I have told him how I feel. He has said on numerous occasions he will change. It lasts a week.
I don't know how to go about moving forward
Any one?

Megansaunty you are here for perspective. We can give you some perspective+ but i reckon your friends will give you a much clearer picture because they know you and him. Have you talked to them about it?

Brilliant post Cogito. They seem to be so predictable.

OMG Megan - only 46. You have a whole life ahead of you. You need to kick his sorry ass in to touch and go grab it with both hands.

It's only ever temporary though, isn't it OP? Or has he had a brain transplant that you're aware of?

And your last sentence is the key: "How long before he loses it again". You deserve a life where you don't have to tread on eggshells forever, worried about what might provoke him